I am so excited to be doing an article on my favorite best parenting books for holidays. I have read a lot of parenting books. I'm so excited to recommend the best parenting books which I love. I actually really enjoy reading self-help books and self-help books about family and parenting are one of my passions.
I really enjoy best parenting books for holidays, my major in school was actually family sciences, and so this is something that we learned a lot about as well in college and things and so I'm really excited to be sharing these parenting books for holidays. I've read a lot of parenting books and these are my absolute favorites.
If you decide to read any of these best painting books just take what works for you and ignore the rest because all parents and children and families and circumstances are different and stages of life and everything.
and so I definitely think that these painting books for holidays should be used as tools and not as like a Bible. I just want to share my 20 favorite best parenting books for holidays.
We selected some of my favorite parenting books to read during the holidays.
20 Best Parenting Books To Read In 2022
1. It's OK Not to Share
It's OK Not to Share and Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids by Heather Shumaker
So first I have "it's okay not to share and other renegade rules" by Heather shoemaker and my husband and I often call this the renegade rules book when we're talking about it because it's easier this is a book for parents of kids between the ages of 2 and 6 she also has a book called it's okay to go up the slide which goes up to age 10 but I haven't read that one yet.
I'm sure it's just as good as this one and I'm looking forward to reading that one I'm just waiting until my kids are a little bit older so one of the things I absolutely love about this book is all of the rules that she shares for parenting are based on the rights of children and the rights of parents and she lists out the rights of parents and children half.
for example one of the rights of children is children have the right to uninterrupted free play one of the rights of parents is that parents have the right not to go insane I love that right my husband and I use it all the time when you know like one with the car and the kids are screaming or something no but that really is one of the rights that she talks out in here so some of the examples of rules that she shows in here long turns kids how kids can take long turns.
If a child is playing with something and another child wants it the second child can wait for the first child to be done and the first child can decide how long they want to play with that toy and then you know and then share and I really like that rule.
another example of a rule is that all feelings are okay all actions aren't and that's a really important rule as a parent you know it's okay for your child to be sad or mad at you it's not okay for your child to hit you.
one of the things that I really love about this book is with each rule gives examples of phrases that a parent can use along with the rule and phrases that the parent could avoid so one of the phrases that we use a lot is I can't let you hit me or I can't let you hit.
Ashton hitting hurts people and those are just some phrases that we use you know when our kids are you know when my two-year-olds hitting me because she's mad at me I can't let you hit me and I grabbed her hand so that she can't hit me and it's just it gives me a reaction so instead of just getting really mad at her I have something to a way to react.
and I love that they give a lot of examples like that here in very specific phrases that you can use covers a lot of things everything from you know how to deal with kids emotions to how to deal with sharing and kids interacting with each other and dealing with conflict between kids to things like how to handle death and s*x and those kinds of topics with your kids and it even covers things like art and dressing up and it covers so much in this book.
one of the things that I really really love is their golden rule which is if it's not hurting people or property it's okay and I use that golden rule all the time because I am a type one kind of controlling type persimmons though it really helps for me to stick it take a breath and step back and say it's not hurting anything they can do that.
another thing I love that they have in here is they have little boxes throughout the book but say take off your adult lenses and it kind of goes along with the golden rule where if it's not hurting anyone sometimes we as adults think that things need to be done in a certain way but really it's fine kids do it a different way.
one other thing that I really love about this book is how it focuses on teaching kids how to deal with conflict and keep giving them the tools to deal with conflict and then stepping back as they learn those tools and letting them work it out between themselves but also giving you as the parent tools to help mediate to help teach your kids to deal with the conflict.
the last thing in this book that I wanted to mention that I really really like is at the end of every section they have out-and-about tips which are just tips for how to deal with other parents or when you're with other families or you're at the park or you in situations where these rules might be harder to apply because you're with other people and I love it gives really specific examples and specific things that you can say and I found those really really helpful this is a really great parenting book if you have a child under the age of 6 or 7 I would definitely recommend picking it up.
2. How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk
Next, how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk by Adele Faber. Adele Faber has actually published this book in the 80s I believe and it talks about a lot of the same principles. but it's not for specifically little kids it has a lot of examples from little you know toddlers all the way through teenagers and talks about kids just in general.
this book is based on other parents and shares a lot of other parents' experiences but it doesn't have the same narrative feel it's much more of self-help just chapter by chapter feel and so some people might like that better.
3. How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen
The next parenting book I wanted to share is how to talk so little kids will listen by Johanna Faver and Julie King this is one that I found actually pretty recently but I have absolutely loved it it's also for that for ages between 2 and 7.
personally, right now because of my kid's ages I actually prefer this one simply because of their ages as they get older I'm sure that I will reference the other one more because it will be more applicable to me at the time so the first half of this book focuses on like general principles and tools and parenting techniques and then the second half of the book actually has different chapters with specific situations like if your kid is lying or and things like that and how to specifically apply the tools that they introduced before to those situations which I think is really useful for reference.
one thing I loved is just the focus on parenting in a very loving kind and respectful way while still setting limits but really being respectful and kind one of my favorite phrases that they use a lot in the book is take action without insult and that just means if you've tried all of your tools and techniques and everything and that your child just isn't listening and you have to you know their child's throwing vodka other people at the park and you've tried everything and they won't stop and you have to leave the park to leave but not insult or disrespect your child while doing it you don't have to be mad you don't have to blame your child or shame child you can just simply take them and say it looks like we're having a hard time listening.
today we'll have to come back another time or I don't like to see Bart being thrown at kids will come back and try playing at the park another time and you can do it in a very kind way rather than being rude or angry about it and I love that's the way that I want to parent personally and so I really really love that focus in this book.
one thing it really talks about is it compares how we talk to our kids to how we talk to other adults or even our spouse or ourselves and I think that's a really good thing to keep in mind as you are talking to your kids like what I say this to another adult or in it is this really degrading one thing this book as well as the other book by Adele Faver they both do this is they use comics to show the difference between how we would normally react or discipline our children versus the new technique and the differences between what the children are thinking and what the children the results that you get from them and different things like that.
and I think it's a very useful way to write a parenting book two things that I really really loved about this book first. it gives you a lot of tools for how to get your children to cooperate without actually telling them what to do because it talks about how the less you tell a child what to do the more likely they are to listen when you do tell them what to do and what other adults tell them what to do and so it gives you a lot of tools for that and it works really well.
the other thing that I really like about this book is it talks about problem-solving in place of punishment or even consequences and I really really love their method and why they do it they go way into depths of the benefits and why they do problem-solving and how to do how to specifically use problem-solving in place of punishments for certain situations and why it's better for both the child and parent and certain steps that you can or need to take with it and everything so it's I love that part of the book this is a really really fabulous book I would definitely recommend picking up this book or how to talk so kids will listen and listen it's okay the kids will talk if your child is older.
4. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck
my next book is "mindset a new psychology" by Carol Estwick this is technically not a painting book it does have a section specifically for parents and it has other sections for others like coaches and teachers and things but the overall principle of the mindset.
I think is just such an important concept especially for kids because she talks about fixed mindset versus growth mindset and a fixed mindset is where you think that your traits like personality or IQ or talents or whatever it is that they're fixed that there is set in stone and there's not much that you can do to change them.
and then she talks about the growth mindset which is believing that your traits that they through three things through your efforts through using different strategies and through asking for help through those three things that you can grow as a person and improve all of your different qualities whether that's personality or your IQ or a talent or whatever it is reading the book.
I was surprised that how much of a fixed mindset I had in so many different areas and it made me really want to improve but it really opened my mind to how important is as parents that we try and help cultivate a growth mindset for kids because the growth mindset is like one of the number one telling points of whether you're successful in life or not basically.
if you have a growth mindset you're more likely to be successful and if you have a fixed mindset you're probably not going to be as successful in life in all areas of life whether that's relationships or jobs or whatever it is and it's really important as parents because a lot of the studies they've done they've actually found that kids even as young as three or four years old can already have a fixed mindset when it comes to certain things.
and so as parents there are things that we can do and the book talks about a lot of those things there are things that we can do that can really help cultivate that mindset in our kids and there's also a lot of information online a lot of parenting blogs that talk about this concept as well if you wanted to go read those to get a more condensed specific to parenting information.
5. The Whole-Brain Child
the next book I chose was "the whole brain child" by Daniel J Siegel and Tina Paine Bryson. this is such a fabulous book it basically looks at behavior children's behavior from a neurological standpoint and how we as parents can help them to better their behavior to develop their minds better through the different situations that come up in life whether it's them misbehaving or just situations that are out of our control the premise basically is that there are four parts of our brain there's the right side and the left side in the upper hemisphere in the lower hemisphere.
and our goal as parents is to integrate all four of those parts and help the kids integrate those four parts because as they integrate all four parts of their brain they become more mature and better able to handle things in life and just work towards being a better person, in general, it really goes into the science but in a very useful way which I loved, they also have a lot of very specific things that parents can do and say to help the children do that in very specific situations.
and I just was grateful for this book because it just gave me a way to respond and feel like I was helping my child when I when she had an experience like that and I just I've had a lot of experiences like that from this book.
6. No-Drama Discipline
the next book I wanted to share is "no drama discipline" it's by the same people as the whole brainchild and they look at discipline from a neurological standpoint and it is so good it's the best book on discipline that I have ever read so they look at things like normal common ways that we discipline our children like spanking or timeouts and different things like that reacting and what it does in there in the child's brain and why it would be better to do it a different way and then they share in a specific way.
they basically say that you connect and then you redirect the behavior so you connect with your child and then you redirect the behavior and they talk about from a neurological standpoint why that's so much better for kids and how even doing that helps reshape their brains that later they have better behavior in the future because their brains are more mature and can handle more and the neurons have you know they talk about all sorts of sciency stuff and they're in a very useful way again and I absolutely loved that.
one of the things I absolutely loved about it as well is just they talk about the main goal of discipline which is to teach our kids you know there are tools of discipline there's the long term just teaching our kids correct behavior and there's the short term stopping or changing or whatever the current behavior that they're doing and it really talks about how how to effectively do that and but it always does that with that goal in mind.
and I really like that it does that I also really love the emphasis that they place unconnect partially because that is something that I feel I don't do enough and do well enough and it's something that I'm trying to improve on that a lot of the other books I mentioned talked about as well but this book really emphasizes it and I loved that.
finally, the last thing I loved about this book is the very last section it talks about how as parents we're not going to discipline the way that we want to every time and how we're not perfect parents, and how we're going to mess up but it's okay it's not going to mess up our kids we can still have a good relationship with them and everything and I really love that.
because I feel like as a parent I read a lot of parenting books and I have a lot of tools under my belt but I just mess up so often I don't react the way that I want to and that is a really common thing for parents to act with their children in a way that they don't want to because it's hard and this book really tough goes into depth on why it's okay but that's that but that happens
and that you can use that in in a good way with your kids how your kids, first of all, they look at you and they'll see that it's okay to make mistakes that everybody makes mistakes even my parents make mistakes and then if you go and you apologize and you reconnect with them you're also teaching them how to fix a mistake when they mess up and how to make amends if they caused a rift in a relationship and that is a really really important useful tool to have throughout your whole life.
and so the last thing this book talks about which I think a place that all parenting books are that even when it doesn't work it works because sometimes these tools and the books and the examples they share make it sound like if you do these things then your child is going to react and it's like a magic pill that makes parenting so much easier and sometimes it does but sometimes it doesn't sometimes you do all the right things and you say all the right things and your child still has a meltdown or your child's illness behaves.
and that's normal because kids aren't perfect either and kids aren't robots but the book really focuses on how even when it doesn't work even when you don't see a result your child still has a meltdown or misbehaves it still works because they see you as the parent connecting with them they see you as the parent teaching them the skills that they need they see you as the parent loving them even when they're misbehaving or even when they're having a meltdown and that's the most important thing.
7. Balanced and Barefoot
the next one is very "balanced and barefoot" by Angela Johnson this book talks about its main focus is how important free play outside is for kids she actually recommends 2 to 4 hours outside every single day for every single child and we don't do that every single day but we do try and get outside time every single day and strive to have hours and hours outside and it's because of this book that we do that and that's one of the reasons I love this book.
this book motivates me to take my kids outside and helps me feel like a better parent when we do go outside or do go to the park or do go unto the trees or whatever it is even if my child ends up eating dirt or they have a meltdown or sunburn or whatever the book really goes in-depth on the benefits of free play and that the benefits of being outside and everything like that.
it talks about how to help your kids play independently outside more and some ideas to help them with that and ideas for you for what to do outside and where to go even if you live like in the city or something it has different sections on age groups including babies and taking babies outside which that was a fantastic section.
and it also talks about playgrounds and resets and how to find a good playground to go like a good part to go play out with your kids and how to make your backyard a really good environment for your kids to play outside and I thought it was a very well-rounded great resource for parents and like I said it really motivates me to take my kids outside which is my favorite part of the book.
8. The Read-Aloud Handbook
next, I really wanted to talk about "the read aloud handbook" by Jim's release because I think every single parent should be required to read this one they have a baby I think that this is just a phenomenal book it really just talks about the benefits of reading a lot to your kids from birth through teenagers and on and even after they can read to themselves and even when they're you know so young but you don't think they're getting anything out of it it really talks about all of those benefits and it also really goes in-depth on how to encourage your child to be a lifelong reader.
and the best ways to do that and I love everything in this book it's very study based it talks a lot about statistics and studies that they've done and I loved that as well I thought it was super interesting.
the second half of the book is a recommended reading list which has been really helpful we've gotten a lot of books on that reading list and overall it's just a fantasy but if you want your child to grow up to be a reader which I'm guessing you do because you're on my blog and this is definitely a fantastic resource to pick up and have in your home library.
9. Honey for a Child's Heart
I also just briefly wanted to mention "honey for a child's heart" that's like a Christian book about reading a lot to your kids and kind of creating a culture of reading and how to it even has a chapter and like reading about the Bible to your kids and different things like that and I thought it was a very well-done book I didn't like it as much as the read aloud handbook because it didn't have as much of the statistics and everything it had some.
but I really liked it overall and it's one that I am planning on buying in the near future to have in my home library as well because I thought it was a very well-done book like I said it's a very Christian base.
10. The Read-Aloud Family
I also wanted to mention "the read-aloud family" by Sarah Mackenzie she has a podcast that she does call the read-aloud revival but I have listened to it before and I loved it.
this is recently coming out this one's sort of Christian based that it's not as heavily based on Christian values and everything but she talks about just reading a lot as a family and her experience with it and finding the read-aloud handbook and just I think that she has a lot in here that they read a lot handbook doesn't have and I love this book.
11. Getting to Yum
next, I wanted to talk about "getting to yum" by can lead billion and this is just a book about how to help your kids not to be as picky eaters so that they enjoy a bigger variety of foods and also to help encourage your kids to be able to try new foods I love the ideas in the book.
she also has a lot of game ideas to help introduce like new foods and different things to your kids especially if you already have a picky eater she has a lot of different games and she has them for all sorts of different ages and everything and I thought that gave me this all sounded really fun. I really loved her focus on the positive and laid-back approach to helping your kids enjoy food to it they don't need to eat certain foods right now but you're focusing more on the experience and letting your kids lead the way with what they eat.
It also motivated me to be healthier and to want to try new foods because I feel like we eat fairly healthy but I don't necessarily try new foods all the time so it really helped me with that because one of the main things that will get your kids to eat better and to be willing to try new things is seen you eat healthy foods and try new things and really enjoy it.
12. Clutterfree with Kids
the fourth book I wanted to mention here was "Clutterfree with Kids" by Joshua Becker and it just talks about the benefits of a more minimalist lifestyle with kids and how to achieve that and I thought it was very very well done I really loved that.
he is more of a practical minimalist which is what I consider myself and my husband to be where we still own a lot of things and we live in a house and we have kids and you know but we try and not to own a lot of just stuff and not let our stuff on us but to be a lot more intentional with what we bring into our home and what we have in our home and I love that focus of his we have seen a lot of benefits doing a lot of the things that he suggested in the book for both us and our kids owning less stuff has been a really great thing for our family.
13. Smart Money, Smart Kids
the next book I wanted to mention was "smart money smart kids" by Dave Ramsey and Rachel Cruise I am a big Dave Ramsey fan and so I really like this book it's written by both Dave Ramsey and his daughter Rachel Cruz and they kind of go back and forth and have different sections where they're the ones talking.
and I really enjoyed that a lot of it is based on the principles that Dave Ramsey teaches to adults which is like stay out of debt have emergency savings you know have a balance of spending giving and saving those kinds of things and just how to pass those money ideas on to our kids and teach kids to be financially responsible they have kind of a step by step age by age plan for teaching kids money tools and about money and how to slowly give them more responsibilities and the consequences that come with those responsibilities.
so that as they face some of those negative consequences the consequences aren't quite as big because they're still in the home and it's on a smaller scale that way when they do into the world they're just better equipped to handle the financial side of life which is always a good thing some of the topics they cover checking accounts cars allowances big expenses as teenagers you know kids budgets to the envelope system and college is a big thing that they talk about.
and so it's a really great book that talks about it really covers a lot of information and is a very useful thing to have around as just a reference as well our kids are getting about old enough that I want to buy it as a reference so that I can go back and look at it again and see what we can start doing it Ashtyn to start but you know building those base principles I guess.
14. Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems
the next book "Solve your child's sleep problems" by Richard Ferber. so he's famous for the Ferber method of crying and then going in at different intervals and stuff and I have to say I've never actually used his method with either of our kids and I don't really plan on using it with our third child either but I love his book because he spends a lot of time on this it's behind sleep which really is useful as a parent.
so you can say well my child is doing this why and it really helped me to figure out why he also has very specific sleep problem topics like wetting the bed and things like that that he goes through and talks about how to solve those problems and I really really love that.
15. On Becoming Baby Wise
the next book "becoming baby wise" by Gary EXO and I also linked my favorite blog down below it is chronicles of a babywise mom and I love her blog and all of her blog posts and everything this book the things I got out of it the most we're just the importance of routines and just having a bedtime routine and having a routine for when they wake up and go to sleep.
and I also really really loved the sleep eat play cycle that they talk about where your child sleeps as soon as they wake up your baby you feed them so that they're awake enough to get a full feeding then they play and go back down to sleep when you try and follow that cycler routine and we really try and implement a routine with our babies as early as possible and it really helps so that they sleep better and we sleep better and I have found a lot of benefits from that.
16. Siblings without Rivalry
the next book "siblings without rivalry" by Adele favorite and Elaine Maslow the same people that wrote how to talk so kids listen and listen so kids will talk and this one just talks about how to help your siblings or how to help your children have good relationships with their siblings even if they're not best friends but just be able to interact with each other in a positive way I guess and work through their differences.
17. The Gift of Failure
This really just talks about exactly what it says which is how important it is for our kids to experience failure and why and how we as parents can help them with that and I thought it was a great book.
18. Five Love Languages of Children
I also wanted to include the "Five Love Languages of Children" by Gary Chapman and Ross camel and I really liked the five love languages book and I felt that this was a very useful one for kids because it talks about the five love languages and how to really show love to your it.
but it also gives very specific examples of how you can show each show love in each language at the end of the chapter to your kids and I loved the specific ideas that they had and I want to go back and reference it and reread it now that our kids are getting just a little bit older.
19. Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids
This is an attachment parenting book and it basically is exactly what it says it just helps you to become a more peaceful parent and has a lot of good ideas in it it's not exactly my failed painting which is why it wasn't one of my absolute favorites.
but I know a lot of people really really love it and the author has a lot of resources online so if you google her name I'm sure you'll find a lot of resources there and I did get quite a bit out of the book even though it was it exactly my parenting style.
20. Parenting with Love and Logic
the last one is "parenting with love and logic" by Foster W client and I know they also have a class slash program thing that I don't know if you could google as well I've never done that but I thought the book was very well done.
It basically talks about how to parent win-win and how to parent so that your kid's consequences of their actions are on them rather than on you and it just gives your child a lot more responsibility and helps relieve you as the parent of trying to control your child I guess and I really like that aspect of the book.
Conclusion of Best Parenting Books for Holidays
Those are my favorite parenting books today. Thank you for sticking with me through this uber long article. I am really excited to be sharing it with you. I hope you enjoyed it and found some books that you want to go read now. thanks for reading.