I have received many requests to recommend some of the parenting books for dads and new moms. In response, I'm pleased to offer my expert recommendations in this article, which is based on my in-depth study and testing in this field.
Some notable best books for fathers and mothers raising sons and daughters are: The Expectant Father, The Dad's Edge, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, Be Prepared, Better Dads, Stronger Sons, Calm the F*CK Down, The New Father, and Dad's Playbook.
These aren't the only books on this topic. Below, you'll find books with detailed descriptions of each of these outstanding resources, helping you make well-informed decisions in your fatherhood and motherhood book journey.
Gentlemen Parenting Books
1. The Expectant Father
Since it was first published several years ago, The Expectant Father has become an indisputable leader in its field. It is an information-packed, month-by-month guide to all the emotional, financial, and yes, even physical changes the father-to-be may experience during his partner's pregnancy.
This indispensable book explores the emotional, financial, and even physical changes the father-to-be may experience during his partner's pregnancy. Written in an easy-to-absorb format and filled with sound advice and practical tips for men on such topics as, how to make sense of your conflicting emotions, how pregnancy affects your sex life, and how to start a college fund.
This volume reassures, commiserates, and informs. It also incorporates the wisdom of top experts in the field, from obstetricians and birth-class instructors to psychologists and sociologists.
This new edition features the latest research on many topics (and there's a ton of it), from expanding sections on overcoming infertility, in vitro, artificial insemination, and other tech-assisted pregnancies, especially where the dad is not the biological parent, to updating the sections on childbirth to reflect the fact that about 80 percent of deliveries are now done with epidurals and new information on c-sections as well.
Sections on prenatal communication and education are also being expanded. There will be an overall, top-to-bottom review of the content to make sure all the information is relevant to today's young and senior dads.
2. The Dad's Edge
If you could improve one area in your dad's journey…what would it be? What would it be like if you mastered not one, but several aspects of your dad's journey all at once?
What would life be like if you improved your level of patience, had better and deeper connections with your wife and kids, improved your relationships outside the immediate family, and all while mastering a good work/life balance? How would life be different if you did this?
Hello, I’m Larry Hagner and I’m a dad. I love being a dad. And I believe that being a dad is one of the most rewarding aspects of a man’s life. However, being a father can humble you like nothing else can. There really is no roadmap.
With so few resources out there for dads like us, I decided to create The Dad Edge to help YOU as a dad to give you easy-to-implement techniques you can use to be your very best and enjoy your journey of fatherhood.
The Dad’s Edge will help you:
- Masterwork/life balance
- Discover three techniques to improve and maintain a great connection with your kids
- Improve your connection & intimacy with your spouse, no matter how busy you are
- Improve your relationships outside the immediate family
- Uncover three easy ways to improve your patience in short-term and long-term
- Discover simple ways to show up big for your kids and be present in the moment
- Thrive (Not Survive) your journey of fatherhood If you can identify with one or more of these issues, I understand firsthand.
Every one of us struggles with these issues on our dad's journey and now I’ve empowered you with some great strategies and a solid roadmap in The Dad’s Edge so you can relax and feel confident you are “good dad focused” and nothing will stand in your way!
3. Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters
While reading this book, I had tears in my eyes several times. A lot of the author's words have said what I want to know; many cases are consistent with me and the environment around me and can resonate. Dad is the daughter’s life; Dad can have other feelings, but we don’t. Our only feelings and the world are our parents.
I think if a young daughter experiences a broken family, which leads to the collapse of her spiritual world, how will her life be different from that of a daughter who has a healthy family and a perfect father who loves her?
The author said that fathers can bring their daughters courage, outlook on life, and self-confidence. Daughters always show their best side to their fathers, and they always shine in front of their fathers. The authority of the father allows his daughter to respect him and have a great sense of security and confidence.
They always compare their boyfriend or husband with their father, because the father is the daughter's first man, and the father's good words and deeds can greatly affect the daughter's attitude towards other men.
The father also teaches his daughter to be humble, and self-esteem, and to protect her from the poison of a deformed society.
The father will take his daughter outdoors, and he will take his daughter to pray and know God.
As the nurturer of the daughter, the father also assumes the role of teacher.
A good father can help his daughter find a good man and lead a happy life.
The author's writing about his father's qualities was so perfect that I couldn't help but think of many things. Because my family is not perfect, which leads to a lot of hardship and detours. Now think about it, don't you also get some experience and results from it?
I don't have any of the above help that my father can give, and now I can become a girl trained by such a good father. It is what I am pleased with, and what I am thinking about and feeling deeply.
Take a look at this book, thanks to the author for interpreting and disseminating the human view of the father.
4. Be Prepared
A very interesting book, you should read it if you are a dad, and show it to Little Tail in the future. The words in it make one can't help but hold their stomach, it's too funny.
An indispensable survival manual for guys entering the trenches of fatherhood, "Be Prepared" is loaded with one-of-a-kind insights, MacGyver-Esque tips and tricks, and no-nonsense advice for mastering the first year as a dad. Finally, a book that teaches men all the things they "really" need to know about fatherhood...
including how to change a baby at a packed sports stadium-create a decoy drawer full of old wallets, remote controls, and cell phones to throw a baby off the scent of your real gear-stay awake (or at least upright) at work-babyproof a hotel room in four minutes flat-construct an emergency diaper out of a towel, a sock, and duct tape Packed with helpful diagrams and detailed instructions, and delivered with a wry sense of humor, "Be Prepared" is the ultimate guide for sleep-deprived,applesauce-covered fathers everywhere.
Gary Greenberg, an American infant psychologist, and author of the nation's best-selling book "Conquering Fear", is also a comedian and screenwriter, and he has written a large number of scripts for the Comedy Center and is well received. Gary is good at writing and is still opening columns in The New York Times and Psychology Today.
Jeanne Hayden is a well-known American illustrator and graphic designer. She used to provide pictures for the best-selling reference book "Alternative Medicine".
Its clients include the American Museum of Natural History, "Psychology Today", L'Oreal, etc. She lives in Manhattan with her husband Gary Greenberg, and their daughter Madeleine also lives with them.
5. Better Dads, Stronger Sons
The relationship between a father and a son is like no other. Dads have a God-given role to protect and provide for their families, always striving to teach their sons the life skills they'll need to grow into honorable men. However many dads struggle with feelings of inadequacy regarding their fathering abilities. They want to be better dads.
In this insightful and practical book, Rick Johnson shows how fathers can be equipped and inspired to be positive role models for their sons. He stresses the significance of male bonding, discipline, and spiritual leadership; discusses important topics such as sexual purity, respect, and self-discipline; and reveals the top ten mistakes to avoid as a father.
From commitment and courage to honesty and humility, Better Dads, Stronger Sons helps men strive to be the dads God designed them to be--so their sons can grow to be everything they are meant to be.
6. Calm the F*CK Down
If you're a good parent, you probably drive yourself batshit with worry. This book is for you. Addressing concerns from my baby won't poop to my boy likes girl toys to everything costs too much, David Vienna's wise and funny parenting advice will amuse and inform and remind you that (almost) nothing is worth freaking out about. Includes advice from actual experts! Great new dad gift that'll keep him calm, cool, and collected.
7. The New Father
The essential handbook for all things first-year father is now fully updated and revised. Not only will new dads get a month-by-month guide to their baby’s development, but men reading The New Father will also learn how they change, grow, and develop over the first twelve months of fatherhood.
In each chapter, Brott focuses on What’s Going On with the Baby; What You’re Going Through; What’s Going On with Your Partner; You and Your Baby; Family Matters; and more.
The latest research, as well as time-honored wisdom--and humor, thanks to New Yorker cartoons and Brott’s light touch--make The New Father indispensable for the modern father who doesn’t want to miss a moment of his child’s first year.
8. Dad's Playbook
Dad's Playbook: Wisdom for Fathers from the Greatest Coaches of All Time (Inspirational Books, New Dad Gifts, Parenting Books, Quotation Reference Books) by Tom Limbert
Empowering fathers to be the best leaders, role models, and life coaches: After all, dads do what the best coaches do—they motivate, mentor, discipline, and love.
Author and parenting expert Tom Limbert takes wisdom from John Madden, Vince Lombardi, Tommy Lasorda, Phil Jackson, and many more, and applies it to fatherhood.
- Features many photographs of coaches in actions paired with brightly colored quotes to help dads keep their heads in the game.
- Includes a foreword written by Hall of Fame Quarterback Steve Young where he talks about his own family and shares real-life experiences.
- The compact 6 x 8-inch size is great for keeping on a coffee table or a bedside table for daily reminders.
Dad's Playbook is a homerun gift for any new or soon-to-be dad.
Tom Limbert earned a master's degree in education with an emphasis in early childhood development from Mills College in Oakland, after which he co-created a children's play space with three San Francisco Bay Area locations. Tom is a Parent Coach and lives in El Cerrito, California, with his wife and son.
Steve Young is best known for his time on the NFL's San Francisco 49ers. Young was named the Most Valuable Player of the NFL in 1992 and 1994, the MVP of Super Bowl XXIX, and was inducted into the Pro Football Hall of Fame in 2005. He holds the NFL record for the highest career passer rating and won six NFL passing titles. He has four children.
9. Dude, You're Gonna Be a Dad!
When the two people who love each other finally step into the marriage hall, the expectation of a new life will come naturally. Before embarking on the "tired and happy" journey of "being a parent", it is very necessary to buy such a guide for prospective fathers.
The author of this book, John Feffer, is the father of three daughters in addition to his two roles as a financial consultant and a writer.
He listed all kinds of precautions from preparing for pregnancy and knowing that the newborn baby fell to the ground, to the various physiological characteristics of pregnancy, the various changes of the wife during pregnancy, the choice of various baby products, and the relationship with the family.
The handling of the relationship, and even how to blend in between that soft little thing and his wife are all involved.
I remember when I was pregnant, my husband was cautious and at a loss at that time he was still a big boy who didn't know what to do. At that time, I was tormented by morning sickness and went crazy. He jumped in a hurry but was helpless.
If he had this book by his side, he would at least know how to prepare a few lemons at home when he was in the fruit business. This was when he saw the ten suggestions for morning sickness and remembered the nausea and vomiting he had experienced. It's too late to meet the book.
I only learned long after the child was born. It turns out that the father-to-be is worried, tired, and happy about the child in the belly of his mother. Most women during pregnancy will become delicate and luxurious unconsciously.
Physical discomfort and fear of childbirth are mixed in the anticipation of a new life, with mixed flavors. People often have this common problem. They are polite and reserved in front of strangers.
When they are in front of a familiar and kind husband, all kinds of emotions that breed anxiety, act coquettishly, and lose their temper, all come. Sometimes I regret it, but I can't control myself when things happen. The worst thing is that the young couple each gave a childish grievance, and was tortured by these trivial matters for no reason, even the feelings were weakened.
Such a book not only tells fathers-to-be, why once their little wives, who are usually gentle and watery, become mothers-to-be, can they become a little arrogant and difficult to cope with; it also has a different approach to every kind of small problem.
Countermeasures your girl suddenly becomes greedy, or uncomfortable looking at her thicker waist, or her belly is so big that she can't turn over and can't breathe? Or will she lose her temper inexplicably? What necessary inspections should I take my wife to? How to choose a comfortable bed, small clothes, blanket, or even diapers for the little guy who is softly crawling? ...Well, this is really "a conversation between buddies".
Yes, this book is teaching us to solve these problems that can't be solved by irritability or depression.
10. The New Dad's Survival Guide
Finally: a manual for new dads that deciphers the immensely confusing world of fatherhood and gives crucial tips and advice from a man's point of view.
No psychobabble, no warm fuzzies -- just a hilarious (and surprisingly practical) military-style guide to surviving and thriving through even the queasiest moments of pregnancy, birth, and babyhood. Seasoned father and master infant tamer Scott Mactavish breaks the Baby Code down and lays it out in straight-up guy speak.
The New Dad's Survival Guide includes declassified information on such topics as Cutting the Cord: The Moment of Truth Feeding and Cleaning the NFU (New Family Unit) Surviving Sleep Deprivation Relieving Stress Without Booze The Great Boob Irony Pee, Poo, Hurl, and Snot: Getting Used to the Bodily Functions Critical Survival Tips Never Before Revealed Sex: Let the Games Begin Again...Finally, Dozens of Essential Terms are Defined, Including Binky, Onesie, Diaper Genie, Passy, and Sippy Cup.
11. The Secret Life of Fathers
If you have a daughter and you're looking for great parenting books on fatherhood, here's one that could be really interesting—whether you're a new dad or even if you are an experienced one, as I was.
Hi, I'm James I. Bond, founder of The Father-Daughter Project. I'm also the father of a son and three daughters. And let me tell you, when it comes to the most useful parenting books, few people understand what it's like to be a father to a daughter better than dads who've gone through the experience themselves.
Most people don't realize that raising a daughter is different from anything a man will ever experience. I know because, even though I ran a training and behavior management company, I discovered firsthand how difficult fatherhood could be, especially with daughters.
And when I searched through parenting books for help and advice, all I got was a bunch of so-called experts. Their help was nice, but I needed something fast and simple, that dealt with the real issues of fatherhood when a daughter was involved.
So, to learn about what fatherhood was really like, I gave up searching through parenting books and went right to the source—actual fathers of daughters. And what they told me was amazing.
In the end, more than 101 fathers of daughters agreed to be interviewed. More than 200 hours of recorded interviews from real dads talking about their own experiences with fatherhood. The good, the bad, and everything in between.
Unlike anything I'd learned from all the parenting books I'd seen, these dads opened up about every phase of raising a daughter, from their first experience of her birth, through the twos, the school years, the teens, her getting a driver's license, and up through adulthood. All the stuff that only a dad would know.
And because it's so difficult to find practical information like this from dads with daughters in other parenting books, I've made it available in a new book, called THE SECRET LIFE OF FATHERS.
In it, you get to learn all those little gritty things you don't get in most parenting books, not just about fatherhood, but about being a father to a daughter. Some of the complicated things, and plenty of the really fun ones. The kinds of stuff only a real father or a daughter would be able to tell you.
And the best part is, it's in bite-size pieces, so it's really easy to read and scan.
When it comes to parenting books for dads, people are telling us, that this is like the first-ever real, training manual for fathers of daughters.
If you're a father to at least one daughter, regardless of her age, you owe it to yourself to check this out.
THE SECRET LIFE OF FATHERS is one of the best parenting books you'll find, cause it's from real dads!
12. First Generation Father by Anthony Blankenship
First Generation Father: How to Build a Healthy and Happy Home When You Come From a Broken One by Anthony Blankenship.
I come from a broken home. I know that pain. I’ve lived it. I’ve suffered through family dysfunction, trauma, abuse, and poverty.
Maybe you have, too.
But I believe you have the power to break those cycles. In First Generation Father, I’ll show you how to find balance within yourself, heal, and build a healthy and happy home for your family.
This book is brutally honest, entertaining, and insightful—a must-read for anyone raised in a challenging environment who wants to avoid passing down generational scars.
Whether you’re searching for ways to improve yourself, strengthen your marriage, or practice genuine love, the philosophy shared in these pages will change life for you—and your family—forever.
13. Dear Black Dads by Jamal J. Myrick
In 2013, CNN journalist, Don Lemon, said, "More than 72% of children in the African-American community are born out of wedlock.
That means more than 72% of children in the African-American community are born to absent fathers. Studies show that the lack of a male role model for said children is an express train right to prison, continuing the cycle.
"This statement is problematic in many ways, and there's data out now that actually combats this common myth.
Dear Black Dads: Wisdom For Your Journey To Fatherhood aims to combat these outdated stereotypes and offer real perspectives from real Black dads who are looking to create new narratives for the Black community through fatherhood.
This labor of love is for the Black male who's looking for encouragement and light for one of the biggest roles in their life.
14. Home Game by Michael Lewis
Home Game: An Accidental Guide to Fatherhood by Michael Lewis
I came across this fatherhood essay by best-selling author Michael Lewis in a local bookstore. Reading the title and introduction of the book, I feel like it was a very embarrassing experience being manipulated by three children.
I’m very curious about how such an experienced male writer would write about the daily life of fatherhood.
The best part was the intro, where his 3-year-old daughter came to the rescue of her sister at a Bermuda resort hotel and called motherfucking asshole to a group of brats, and then the adults in the swimming pool all around added social aspects.
Dad, he quietly retracted into the water like a crocodile, but he felt proud in his heart. Killing me. He also said that after becoming a father, he became much more timid.
He was afraid of flying and investing in the stock market. He was no longer as open as I once was to helping out people. I don't know, especially when those people need a bath. " I understand this after knowing that their family lives in Berkeley.
All in all, when there are no children, One has nothing to lose. After having children, One will be afraid that anything will go wrong and there will be such a big responsibility to bear.
What impressed me the most was that he said he wrote this book because he always writes down things immediately after they happen, otherwise even very dramatic plots and feelings will be quickly forgotten. Memory loss is the key to human reproduction.
But the main reason is "this persistent and disturbing gap between what I was meant to feel overcome with joy. 'it's a boy! you must be so happy!'-I often felt puzzled. (I shouldn't be just as happy if it was a girl?) Expected to feel outraged, I often felt secretly pleased; expected to feel worried, I often felt indifferent. ('It's just a little blood.')
For a while, I went around feeling a tiny bit guilty all the time, but then I realized that all around me fathers were pretending to do one thing, and feel one way, when in fact they were doing and feeling all sorts of things, and then engaging afterward in t what amounted to an extended cover-up.”
This point is very subtle. People always have various expectations for the parents of newborns, and the reality is often very different from the expectations. For example, when I felt the most torturous fatigue in my life after giving birth, some friends kept telling me that I was still very happy, right?
Or when I throw it all over my face while eating, someone will tell me, Oh my God, you are going to collapse. I really think it's okay. It is for this reason that I need to write it down more.
Because I don’t write, I gradually forget about it, and those colorful and subtle feelings are occupied and replaced by other people’s expectations.
But even if he is Michael Lewis, the essays on his personal life are not very exciting. It’s still hard for me to like words that are too trivial and personal.
15. Dad Is Fat by Jim Gaffigan
This Book: Though he grew up in a large Irish-Catholic family, Jim was satisfied with the nomadic, nocturnal life of a standup comedian, and was content to be "that weird uncle who lives in an apartment by himself in New York that everyone in the family speculates about."
But all that changed when he married and found out his wife, Jeannie "is someone who gets pregnant looking at babies."
Five kids later, the comedian whose riffs on everything from Hot Pockets to Jesus have scored millions of hits on YouTube, started to tweet about the mistakes and victories of his life as a dad.
Those tweets struck such a chord that he soon passed the million followers mark. But it turns out 140 characters are not enough to express all the joys and horrors of life with five kids, so he's now sharing it all in Dad Is Fat.
From new parents to empty nesters to Jim's twenty-something fans, everyone will recognize their own families in these hilarious takes on everything from cousins ("celebrities for little kids") to growing up in a big family ("I always assumed my father had six children so he could have a sufficient lawn crew") to changing diapers in the middle of the night ("like The Hurt Locker but much more dangerous") to bedtime (aka "Negotiating with Terrorists").
Dad is Fat is sharply observed, explosively funny, and a cry for help from a man who has realized he and his wife are outnumbered in their own home.
It feels like a very practical parenting lesson. For example, when a child goes to the zoo, all he thinks about is ice cream, and when it comes to ice cream, the child will not ask if he can eat it first, but will directly ask... Growing up is a very magical process.
When I was a child, I had Completely different brain circuits, but now, I just recently watched the NZ internet celebrity's 'How to Dad' series, parenting is really the most difficult thing in the world...
Best Baby Books for New Moms
Part A: Nursing and Feeding Diseases
The best newborn parenting books for new moms, the most important thing is daily care
and feeding, as well as the ability to cope with the common diseases of the
baby.
Therefore, books on nursing/feeding/diseases must be bought first.
1. Caring for Your Baby and Young Child
by the American Academy Of Pediatrics
Reasons for recommendation:
Be authoritative - first-time mothers or expectant mothers will not be
unfamiliar with the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). All the knowledge and
conclusions of this book are based on the fact that a large number of sample
studies of infants and young children in the United States have been conducted.
Each conclusion can be checked with evidence, which is far
away from the "parenting experiential school" and "parenting
metaphysics school". When people have different opinions on the same
parenting problem, the view of the American Academy of Pediatrics is the Holy
Grail.
PS: This book is constantly updated, and new versions will
be published every once in a while. The important content that is too late to
be published will be published on the official website. Now, the latest edition
is the sixth edition.
Super practical - if you can only buy one parenting book, it
will be. Most baby-feeding development questions have answers. It can be read
in order, or as a reference book, read according to the child's age or when the
child is sick.
The content is super detailed and
complete ~ this is a Book of experience composed of 62000 pediatricians,
doctors, and nursing doctors. The first part is the basic development, safety, and rehabilitation of children from birth to 4-5 years old.
The second part is
about children's physical health, developmental disorders, behavior, and
environment. In a word, all kinds of problems in parenting can be found in
detail through this book!
2. The Baby Book
Part of: Sears Parenting Library
Reasons for recommendation:
Grandfather William Sears is a well-known "godfather of
parenting" in the United States and a core member of the American Academy
of Pediatrics.
He has more than 40 years of clinical practice in pediatrics,
and he has raised eight children with his wife, which can be said to be the authoritative version of Cui Yutao in the United States.
Close parenting philosophy - This book not only has a lot of
popular parenting knowledge as the American Academy of Pediatrics Pediatrics
encyclopedia but also conveys a parenting philosophy: how to make children and
parents happier and more closely connected.
If your partner is tortured by your
baby to the point of collapse, take a look at this book. Besides giving correct
guidance, it will also help you gradually calm down your anxiety and adjust
your mind.
It covers almost all the problems that the baby may have. From the beginning of greeting the baby, the food and safety of the baby, the way of raising children and the nursing care of the baby's diseases, etc.,
I found the reasons for the problems of my own baby in the book, which is really recommended, especially for the novice numb! After reading this book, I believe you can all become parenting experts.
3. Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child
by Marc Weissbluth M.D.
Reasons for recommendation:
Sleep problems are solved - This book covers all sleep
problems and solutions from birth to adolescence, as well as an explanation of
the relationship between sleep quality intellectual development, and
adaptability.
In particular, the author clearly states that good sleep can be
obtained by learning and practicing, rather than just looking at
"talent". It's also helpful for adults who have a lot of sleep
problems.
My baby's sleep has been seriously regressed
since he was about 5 months old. Finally, I began to adjust his sleep according
to the "sleep Bible" and "practical parenting law" and
strictly regulate his work and rest time.
It has been more than a week. My baby
can sleep on his own now, and the whole family is relaxed. After eight o'clock
in the evening, we have our own time. I can brush the drama, and my father can
be the king of pesticides. It's so happy.
4. Brush Your Teeth, Please
by Jean Pidgeon
Reasons for recommendation:
"Give your child a beautiful tooth" is a dental
health book tailored for children aged 0-12 years. It introduces the
characteristics of teeth in different periods, common problems of teeth, and
methods of tooth maintenance.
Parents do not have to be bad parents to let
their children "do not cry, do not make demands", and cooperate
obediently to develop good dental care habits.
This book not only has the principle but also the practical
content with pictures and texts to guide and control what posture parents
should take to guide and control the baby's tooth care, to change the traditional concept of tooth cognition.
Part B: Psychological Cognitive Development
1. How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
by Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish
Reasons for recommendation:
Teach adults how to talk to their children -- bear children
are not obedient, which is the most troublesome thing for parents.
This book
teaches Baba Ma how to help children overcome negative emotions, how to make
children willing to listen, how to praise and encourage children, how to correctly
punish children when they make mistakes, and so on.
In short, this book is to teach the art of talking to
children. It is very important to establish effective communication from
childhood, which is of great importance to the harmony of the family and the
"not long crooked" of the baby!
I've bought more than 20 parenting books,
and I've read the rest. It's not practical. I've read this book over and over
again. It's also very useful in practice. It's suitable for all ages.
2. Positive Discipline
by Jane Nelsen Ed.D.
Reasons for recommendation:
The basic principle of traditional education is
"rewards and punishments". If you finish your homework, you will be
rewarded with new toys. If you don't finish your homework, you will be fined for one week to watch TV.
It works in a short period, but the long-term effect is poor. If there is no numbness around, will the children finish their
homework independently, or will they be unscrupulous because of the lack of
supervision and punishment?
This book emphasizes no punishment and indulgence. Based on kindness and firmness, the book cultivates children's self-control
ability and various social skills, and at the same time makes children feel a
sense of belonging and self-identity. It sounds incredible, but the book gives
detailed examples of how to deal with all kinds of situations, even sentence patterns.
The author Jane Nelsen's theory of individual psychology
based on Adler, one of the three psychological giants, has been proven to be
effective after 40 years of practice in the United States.
Its essence is to
interact with people and emphasize "respect". It is also very
enlightening for communication between adults. It is very popular in
foreign countries, and it is strongly promoted!
It's a very good book. I'd like to simplify some of
them. However, the contents are very good. It's really difficult to choose
between them. The examples are easy to understand.
So the contents have been
sent out. Positive discipline advocates neither punishment nor indulgence,
abandoning the shortcomings of the two and adopting their strengths,
eliminating the indulgence of no rules and excessive punishment. Only in such
an atmosphere can we cultivate self-discipline, a sense of responsibility,
cooperation, and the ability to solve problems by ourselves.
3. Spock’s Parenting Classic
by Benjamin Spock, Robert Needlman
Reasons for recommendation:
Spock's parenting books are recognized as the most reliable
parenting manual of the 20th century, which condenses the effective parenting
experience of Dr. Spock, the "father of parenting", after 60 years of
testing. It was rated as one of the 10 books that influenced the 20th century
by time.
Since 1946, Spock's parenting Sutra has been constantly
revised and supplemented. This book is the latest revision of the 9th Edition,
which not only updates the most comprehensive, authoritative, and reliable information,
such as accidental injury, common diseases, immunity, behavior, and
psychological disorders, but also adds about children's growth and development,
and different ages of life given the focus problems that parents have paid
attention to in recent years Physical, intellectual and emotional needs: such
as obesity and nutrition, children and computer games, how to deal with stress,
etc.
4. The Whole-Brain Child
by Daniel J. Siegel
Reasons for recommendation:
This book from the physiological, psychological, and other
stages of brain development characteristics information, so that
parents can understand the family, husband, and wife relationship and
emotions in the child's intellectual development process the key role, in examining their own must-change behavior habits; it is for the children's brain
freedom.
Complete with age-appropriate strategies for dealing with day-to-day struggles and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child, The Whole-Brain Child shows you how to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development so that your children can lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives.
Part C: Best Parenting Books List for New Parents
In addition to these are also some
small red books recommended by first-time mothers and fathers with high scores.
They are also
worth reading as an auxiliary. Here is a brief introduction.
1. Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy
by the pregnancy experts at the Mayo Clinic
Reasons for recommendation:
Its contents are comprehensive
and rich, and the chapters are clear. First, during the planning of pregnancy,
you can have a certain understanding of the whole process of pregnancy and some
problems and solutions during pregnancy.
Then, the pregnancy from pregnancy to
childbirth is explained in detail month by month, so that you will not feel
overwhelmed by the subtle physical changes in each pregnancy period. Finally,
it introduces some special risks of pregnancy situations. I use this book as a
reference book for pregnancy.
After reading it, I put it by the side of my bed.
If I encounter any problems or puzzles, I will turn to them again.
2. Pregnancy Notes
by Rujuta Diwekar
Reasons for recommendation:
This book is a record of Rujuta Diwekar from preparation for pregnancy to pregnancy to
childbirth to child-rearing, which is very close to life. The table of contents
is also very clear.
If you open the corresponding page, you can still find the
answer you want. The important parts of each chapter are also marked with notes
and lines. For lazy mothers who don't like reading books, they can also get a
general understanding of the key points, which is very considerate.
3. Secrets of the Baby Whisperer
by Tracy Hogg
Reasons for recommendation:
This book focuses on babies
aged 0 to 3 months. It tells us in detail the characteristics and life patterns
of babies in the first four months and teaches first-time mothers how to judge
their baby's crying and various behavioral signals.
Tracy also dispelled the insidious myth that parents must go sleepless for the first year of a baby’s life–because a happy baby sleeps through the night. Now you too can benefit from Tracy’s more than twenty years of experience.
In this groundbreaking book, she shares simple, accessible programs in which you will learn:
- E.A.S.Y.–how to get a baby to eat, play, and sleep on a schedule that will make every member of the household’s life easier and happier.
- S.L.O.W.–how to interpret what your baby is trying to tell you (so you don’t try to feed him when he really wants a nap).
- How to identify which type of baby yours is–Angel, Textbook, Touchy, Spirited, or Grumpy–and then learn the best way to interact with that type.
- Tracy’s Three Day Magic–how to change any and all bad habits (yours and the baby’s) in just three days.
4. Baby Play (Gymboree)
by Wendy Masi Ph.D., Roni Cohen Leiderman, Dr. Wendy S. Masi, Dr. Roni Cohen Leiderman
Reasons for recommendation:
American Gymboree early
education baby game, according to the baby of different months of age to
develop different games. The games inside all emphasize the participation of
parents.
They don't need delicate toys. Basically, they can play with the baby.
Different games at each stage can also develop the different abilities of the baby.
The book also includes a glossary of key terms in child development, beneficial to any new parent, as well as detailed information on how parents can identify development skills as they emerge in their baby.
From stretching exercises to puppet games, BABY PLAY encourages learning during that first critical year of life.
Look at what this book offers:
- Includes over 100 activities for babies 0-12 months.
- Organized by appropriateness for each month of life.
- Includes a wide variety of play activities, from ball rolling to imitative play.
- Developed in consultation with the play experts at Gymboree.
- Contains a useful glossary of key terms in child development.
5. The Little Girl at the Window
by Tetsuko Kuroyanagi
Reasons for recommendation:
This book's small edition also wants the wall crack
recommendation once saw the hot tear in the eye, especially warm moving!
The author Tetsuko Kuroyanagi is not only a famous writer but
also a goodwill ambassador of the United Nations Children's Fund. Several works
are very suitable for parent-child reading. Adults often see tears in their
eyes.
This is a book about how to
communicate with children, many kindergarten teachers & Junior primary school
teachers will also recommend a book. Each story is an example, that lets us know
about children, understand children, cherish ourselves, and be a parent and
ready to be pregnant. Parents are recommended to watch.
6. When I Meet You
by Olivia Newport
Reasons for recommendation:
If I didn't buy this book, maybe my mind would not be established now. Because of this book, I like parenting
instead of simply taking care of children.
This book will dissect the inner trauma of growing up, but we must face it bravely, calm down, read all the
contents carefully, avoid making the same mistakes, and make the children's
childhood unhappy. Every chapter in the book, from infant psychology to
childhood psychology, is worth reading several times.
7. We're Pregnant! The First-Time Dad's Pregnancy
The book I bought for R’s father-to-be, I can read the entire book in just over an hour with a few pages per week. I asked R to read according to my pregnancy progress, and he didn't think it was very useful. It’s funny that he started urging me very early on why the hospital bag hadn’t been collected yet.
The book says that it should be ready at this time. It turns out that he reads too fast. He was pregnant when I was in the second trimester. It's late...If dad-to-be wants to be lazy, you can take a look, but the amount of information is average, if there are other books, this one won't be necessary.
8. What to Expect When You're Expecting
This is a reference manual for pregnancy. When you need it, you can search for relevant knowledge points at any time when you have questions. It is not suitable for reading the whole article, because you can't remember it completely after reading it.
Regarding pregnancy, in the early stage, I will basically study the relevant precautions in a short time to do a systematic study. In the next few months, I go to the hospital for examination on time, and another related knowledge supplementation is relatively slow.
In other words, in the early stages of pregnancy, the utilization rate of this book will be relatively high, and then the utilization rate will gradually decrease. When encountering a problem, there is about half the probability that the book can give an answer, but it is only for reference.
We will go to the hospital for real questions and find the doctor to give the best choice instead of listening to a book. book. Furthermore, a book written by foreigners still feels a bit distant from our real situation, so this book cannot solve the real problems encountered during pregnancy. As a supplement to pregnancy-related knowledge, it is still possible, such as some precautions.
In fact, in the beginning, I had a very high enthusiasm for learning, but this book is too thick. Although I filled in some relevant knowledge in the process of reading, this knowledge did not change much. When I really encountered a problem, I couldn't find the answer in the book, so my enthusiasm for reading naturally weakened.
The overall feeling is: that when you have this book, it means that you will have your own baby. It is worth celebrating, but the real problem is that this book can’t solve the problem. Put it on the shelf, and another friend will be pregnant. You can give it to them.
9. The Happiest Baby on the Block
This book promotes a view (the baby is born three months early, so it has to go through a fourth period, at this stage, parents should provide it with a womb-like experience) and a set of practices (5S method, namely, wrapping, shushing) Sound, lying on the side, shaking, and nipple are integrated into a set of hug therapy, which can quickly calm down a crying child).
I believe this method is very effective for American parents who are busy at work and have little time to spend with their children but effectively does not mean beneficial.
I think the first consideration in raising children is whether our behavior is conducive to the growth and development of the child, not whether it can calm the child down.
The starting point of this book is to quiet down the child, so I questioned the method, which may bring some potential side effects while quieting the child.
Although the author has made a lot of explanations in the book in advance, I still reserve the right to question, and I hope to see the critical views of others, I also look forward to seeing more effective and helpful experiences from parents.
10. Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child
One of the country's leading researchers updates his revolutionary approach to solving--and preventing--your children's sleep problems.
Here Dr. Marc Weissbluth, a distinguished pediatrician and father of four, offers his groundbreaking program to ensure the best sleep for your child.
In Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, he explains with authority and reassurance his step-by-step regime for instituting beneficial habits within the framework of your child's natural sleep cycles.
This valuable sourcebook contains brand-new research that
- Pinpoint the way daytime sleep differs from night sleep and why both are important to your child
- Helps you cope with and stop the crybaby syndrome, nightmares, bedwetting, and more
- Analyze ways to get your baby to fall asleep according to his internal clock--naturally
- Reveals the common mistakes parents make to get their children to sleep--including the inclination to rock and feed
- Explores the different sleep cycle needs for different temperaments--from quiet babies to hyperactive toddlers
- Emphasizes the significance of a nap schedule
Rest is vital to your child's healthy growth and development. Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child outlines proven strategies that ensure good, healthy sleep for every age. Advises parents dealing with teenagers and their unique sleep problems.
11. Boys Should Be Boys
Ten years of trees, and 100 years of people, to educate an excellent, healthy, and strong-hearted son is the wish of every mother.
When the son fell to the ground, the parents thought with tears, as long as they were healthy, everything was fine.
When the son is healthy and smart, the parents greedily hope that the son will be better than the children of the same age, and go all out and run around for this.
And the beautiful name is that this is for the future of the child. In fact, asking yourself maybe for your own vanity, for your own son is not worse than the neighbor's son, for your own son to study better than the son of classmates, for. . . .
So have we thought about what kind of person you want your son to be when he is twenty-five years old?
Many times parents are exhausted every day, letting their children learn various subjects. At the end of the day, when they were twenty-five years old, they found that he did not learn more than other children, but less.
When we were young, we knew the rule of 7+1>8, that is, the efficiency of learning for eight hours is far lower than the principle of taking one hour in the middle of learning seven hours.
But when we switched to our own children, we forgot to let them shuttle in various classes on holidays, piano, violin, saxophone, ballet, national standard, English, composition. . . . .
After reading this book, I reflected a lot.
12. The Wonder Weeks
If you don’t finish reading, you won’t be starring. The basic concept is that, just as the body has a prolonged period of rapid growth, there are also stages of rapid development of brain development, accompanied by regression of sleep and eating well, no reason to cry. After downloading the app that matches the book, you can track the baby's leap growth stage.
In parenting reference books, new mothers can take a look, there are detailed introductions and examples for several leap periods. I think the most important function of this kind of book is to prevent novice mothers from anxiety and let novice mothers have books to rely on.
Tell you that sometimes stepping back a little bit maybe for better progress later. It is more fragrant with the matching app, you can set up multiple children, record and view the leap period, and possible abnormal behavior, and tell you how to solve it.
13. The Sleepeasy Solution
Is your child a night owl or a nap resister? Help has arrived with "The Sleepeasy Solution!" Jill Spivack and Jennifer Waldburger have earned their reputation as two of America's leading experts on children and sleep because they give parents the key ingredients for success- a customized sleep plan, clear step-by-step instructions, and plenty of emotional support.
Their ' least-cry' approach ensures that healthy sleep habits are established quickly without any guessing and without any guilt. Teach your child to sleep through the night and take regular naps.
Say goodbye to early morning waking. End bedtime battles. Find easy solutions to common problems such as teething, illness, traveling, and managing multiple siblings.
14. Cribsheet by Emily Oster
A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, from Birth to Preschool
As a professor of economics at Brown University and the mother of two children, the author uses the perspective of a scientist to study whether the modern popular parenting concept is supported by data and proposes a framework that can be used in decision-making.
From breastfeeding, early education, and rule-making, to infants, and vitamin supplementation, it covers almost all the topics that parents care about from the birth of the baby to preschool.
The biggest feature of this book is also the most precious. It does not tell you what to do but guides you to make the most suitable choice for your family scientifically and rationally.
15. The Good Sleeper
Cry it out or co-sleep? Bassinet or swing? White noise machine or Bach? How many hours anyway? For something so important, there's too much conflicting information about how best to get your baby to sleep through the night and nap successfully during the day.
This book is a straightforward, no-nonsense answer to one of the biggest challenges new parents face when they welcome a brand-new baby home. This book is written for exhausted parents, giving them immediate access to the information they need.
Reassuring and easy to understand, Dr. Kennedy addresses head-on the fears and misinformation about the long-term effects of crying and takes a bold stand on controversial issues such as co-sleeping and attachment parenting.
With polarizing figures and techniques dominating the marketplace―and spawning misinformation across the internet―Dr. Kennedy's methods and practices create an extensively researched and parent-tested approach to sleep training that takes both babies' and parents' needs into account to deliver good nights and days of sleep, and no small dose of peace of mind.
The Good Sleeper is a practical, empowering―and even entertaining―guide to help parents understand infant sleep. This research-based book will teach parents the basics of sleep science, determine how and when to intervene, and provide tools to solve even the most seemingly impossible sleep problems.
16. Your Baby and Child
This is Penelope Leach's classic childcare manual updated for 21st-century parents. In the 21st century, we know a child's psychological development and well-being are just as important as any physical need.
Here Penelope Leach brings together key new scientific evidence about the way infants think and react to their parents and the outside world.
Find guidance on sleeping, feeding, playing, and washing as well as stage-by-stage advice on your baby's physical, intellectual, and emotional development from birth to five. You'll learn how to respond to your child and achieve a happier, more harmonious family life.
More than a guide to this insight from Penelope Leach into your child's needs, thoughts and behaviors will help you to really communicate together.
You'll get support and learn to trust your parenting instincts and gain the confidence to live by your baby and child, not by the book.
17. The Fifth Trimester
The Fifth Trimester is your new best friend: a brilliant, tells-it-like-it-is guide that helps moms cope with the demands of the real world after the baby arrives The first three trimesters (and the fourth—those blurry days ) are for the baby, but the Fifth Trimester is when the working mom is born.
No matter what the job or how you define work, you're going to have a lot of questions.
- When will I go back?
- How should I manage that initial "I want to quit" attack?
- Flex-time or full-time?
- How can I achieve 50/50 at home with my partner?
- What's the best option for childcare?
- Is it possible to look like I slept for eight hours instead of three?
- Why is there never a convenient space to pump?
Whether you're in the final stages of pregnancy or hitting the panic button on your last day of leave, The Fifth Trimester is your one-stop-shop for the honest, funny, and comforting tips, to-do lists, and take-charge strategies you'll need to embrace your new identity as a working parent and set yourself up for success.
Based on interviews with 700+ candidly speaking moms in wildly varied fields and incredible expert advice, The Fifth Trimester tackles every personal and professional detail with the wit, warmth, and inspiration you need to win when you head back to work.
Like What to Expect When You're Expecting and The Happiest Baby on the Block, this is an indispensable guide every new mom needs on her shelf.
18. How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids
"Even when they are asleep, infants as young as six months react negatively to angry, argumentative voices..."
"At ages three to six, children assume they are the cause of the fight. By ages of six to eight, they tend to side with one parent."
"...when parents battle, it is the father's relationship with his kids that takes a major hit. Most moms were able to compartmentalize and reported a quick recovery and even an improved relationship with their children.
But fathers had a much greater tendency to let the negative marital tension spill over into the rest of the family."
19. Bringing Up Bébé
It was written by an American journalist who married in France and found out that French families and American families have very different parenting methods during the process of having children in France.
Mainly from the perspective of criticizing American parenting methods: the kind of parenting method that overemphasizes giving up self to be intimate with, always praise, letting children learn everything early, and worrying about children in every detail.
A quite witty narrative, but there are inevitably some exaggerated descriptions that Americans use. According to the author, the mothers of French families are elegant and calm, and the children are well-behaved, but I still believe that there are children everywhere.
Of course, the author still analyzes from all levels of government, history, and social environment why French mothers look easier to take care of their children. Actually, I want to give it 3 and a half stars. As a parenting reader, it is worth reading to understand some different perspectives.
20. Operating Instructions
I would like to recommend a book to every novice mother. How can Anne Lamott, a frank and self-deprecating writer, After reviewing this diary after four or five years, I am still amazed by the words that accurately capture the movements of the baby boy, and laugh at the humorous metaphors and associations?
"Sometimes he's the Dalai Lama, and sometimes he's like a cross between a bad boyfriend and a high-strung puppy." She became a single mother when she was thirty-five. A good girlfriend (the most powerful helper in life) also started chemotherapy after suffering from cancer this year.
The final part of the diary writes about her son's first birthday, and then a record, that two years later, her girlfriend died of illness. I checked the wiki, and now Anne Lamott has become a grandmother.
21. And Now We Have Everything
Everyone’s production process is different. Some people are surprisingly smooth, two or three hours to complete, some people like the author’s twists and turns for more than forty hours or even more dangerous. And this kind of experience will directly shape you, and it's also very random when you think about it.
In short, before giving birth, you must understand all the risks and sufferings you may face (a severe unsuccessful production process may cause severe pain for dozens of hours, and may cause major sequelae including but not limited to organ damage.
Depression, loss of libido, career hindrance, husband and wife/couple relationship frustration, no freedom anymore); you have to discuss with your partner or figure out how to bring your children, whether to breastfeed exclusively, or whether to make meals by yourself Infant meal, do you want to be responsive to your child, or give your child the best meal beyond your ability.
But there is still good news, that is, the hardest part of raising a child is at the beginning. When the child grows up and becomes a real person who can express himself and take care of himself, everything will get better and better.
In addition, this book proves once again that young women have a deadline even in the United States and New York. You need to find a partner before the deadline to give birth.
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Conclusion
One thing that I do want to say quickly is that while I love these parenting books for dads and new moms for raising sons and daughters I highly recommend them.
That does not mean that I agree a hundred percent with every single thing that is written in the book or everything that that particular author has ever written or believes on everything.
These are the books for dads that are written by men and women who are trying to faithfully read the scripture and take the truth of God's Word and apply it very practical to our role as parents and so obviously the Bible is the only thing that's without error so obviously use discernment when you're reading these books.
You probably fall into one of two parenting categories:
- The first is to give it to me I'll do anything at this point I need help,
- The second is that parent has time to read the books for new dads of daughters and families we get it.
Parenting is full-on but the fatherhood and motherhood books contained in this list will help you ease up we hope you will be able to take some time and read a few you and your family will be better for it.
