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I have received many requests to recommend some of the best seduction books. In response, I'm pleased to offer my expert recommendations in this article.
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I will recommend the best books on seduction in this post, which is based on my in-depth study and extensive research in this field. Some notable recommendations include here: The Art of Seduction, Models, The Game, The Mystery Method, The Natural, The Truth, and Why Men Love Bitches.
These aren't the only books on this topic. Below, you'll find 15 books with detailed descriptions of each of these outstanding resources, helping you make well-informed decisions in your seduction books journey.
15 Best Seduction Books to Read in 2023
Seduction is a strange thing that exists in the world. You will be crazy about it and you can't help yourself.
The reason why it exists is that people are constantly stimulated by desires throughout their lives, so they are tortured by temptation for a lifetime.
People exist in the world, and the first thing they face is material temptation and then spiritual temptation.
Spiritual temptation refers to the pursuit of false fame, obsession with self-expression, or excessive exploration of the field of knowledge.
Power, status, fame, and money are all temptations. Resist the temptation and it will be better.
These best seduction books detail the significant number of techniques to try on your path to becoming a seduction goddess.
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1. The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene
After reading "The Art of Seduction", I still remember a flirtatious part of it: Human nature has an anti-inclination, the easier things you get, the less interested you are, and the other party is always worried about you pulling away.
I will always pay attention to you and care about you. To arouse deep insecurity in the other party, to make the other party afraid that you will see through him, afraid that you will lose your passion, this sense of insecurity is extremely effective.
Once you make the other person feel unsure about you and yourself, and at a loss, give him hope again, let him rekindle his desire, make him hot and cold, and hot and cold—this kind of erratic teasing is beyond your imagination.
Delight in the unexpected, keep yourself fresh and make the other person bow down. This kind of trick should be commonly used to tease women, right?
The essence of the art of "The Art of Seduction" lies in Josephine's profound analysis of Napoleon Nassau in the sixth chapter of The Seducer "For some men, women's tenacious resistance is more attractive than submissive submission, in their subconscious Here, they prefer the unpredictable sky-sometimes clear sky, sometimes cloudy sky, lightning, and thunder.
This kind of exciting love is more attractive than the blue love sky that is always cloudless, especially because Napoleon is A contest with a strong conqueror, she does not wait for love to come, but lets Napoleon try his best to conquer her, if she is more gentle, more docile and pleasant, then Napoleon will definitely love her much less."
When teasing meets Nassau, it is like stealing my heart after a glimpse, disappearing and disappearing as if away, and it turns into a contest between you and me; when teasing meets Mensau, it is an attack Fighting against the fighting spirit of defense is the art of dialing and blocking, and what you taste is a piece of beef; when Nassau meets Mensau, it is a confrontation with Tang as jealousy, which lasts for a long time.
2. Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson
Only make time for people who make time for you. Only being interested in dating people who are interested in dating you. Worrying about what will make you happy instead of what will make someone else happy.
Looking for a person who meets your needs instead of Trying to always meet theirs. Changing yourself to become who you want to be, not what you think women want you to be.
Remember: what you actually say doesn't matter; why you say it matters.
It's just another form of performance — he acts as if he's in control, but his desperation to be in control is due to insecurity. A non-needy man doesn't try to control what women feel about him. Rather he tries to control what he feels about certain women.
He understands that the world isn't about him and that all he can control is himself and his own actions. He's not bothered when things don't go his way or when people don't recognize him as being amazing because he already feels amazing himself. He doesn't need their approval and their disapproval doesn't faze him from his mission.
This is a book with more methods than techniques, which can change your perception of masculine charm from the thinking level.
Although the author is very talkative, many of his views on the relationship between the s*xes do not conform to my values; but the concept he advocates to be open and honest, the analysis and cultivation of true confidence,
and the frustration in the process of chasing girls (In fact, all the frustrations in life), I agree with it very much, and the detailed steps of chasing girls given at the end of the book can be seen from his well-intentioned efforts.
3. The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists by Neil Strauss
Some men regard a painless relationship as their whole life when they are young, but they start to have an affair after a few years.
Some men are suave when they are young, but one day they meet a woman that other women can't replace, and that person becomes the only one in his life.
A group of men who lack self-confidence in front of women organize this pickup ring; various skills, various women, and various experiences are full of wit and wit.
After experiencing all kinds of weird and erotic stories with countless Loli girls and young women, Style finally finds Lisa in the crowd, a woman who still makes him feel nervous after he has experienced dozens of women, a woman who is very close to her. She feels warm together and can kiss a girl who doesn't have s*x all night.
After a few years of vicissitudes in the world of picking up girls, meeting such a person who makes him feel completely hopeless is like a brave man whose struggle in history finally has a happy ending.
When chatting with my friend K yesterday, I discovered a pessimistic reality that we share: we have many experiences, but we have never had a lover who is willing to give unconditionally for it.
And this book gives a good answer: Everything will come in the end; the waiting and every experience before are to tell you what type of lover you want more, to cultivate your ability
so that you can hold The person who suits you in the future; after many years when you finally find the person you love, the long-waiting happiness will make you love each other for a lifetime.
4. The Mystery Method by Mystery
On the whole, the whole book still provides some basic knowledge and framework for a novice like me. The advantage is that it breaks some previous views and moves from chaos to clarity,
but the disadvantages are also obvious, just like an intellectual in a backward country who has not tasted capitalism but has already started planning and running under the framework of communism.
After entering a socialist country, in the face of the bleak reality, it is judged that this is only a temporary low ebb of communism, and communism will eventually be realized.
It should be clear that the main purpose of this book is purely to get girls into bed. If this purpose is not clear, reading this book is pure nonsense, and even beneficial and harmless.
A simple analogy is a self-defense and a one-shot fatal attack. It is purely two systems. When you self-defense and strengthen your body, while you have strong skills, you will have to consider whether to defend too much, cause excessive damage to the opponent, and eventually hurt yourself.
The content of this book was quickly thrown out of my mind because I found it really difficult to apply to this environment,
but the important thing is that it revealed to me that women who dress up beautifully are just like us dirty men Unbearable, facing reality and saying goodbye to the ideal world, this is both cruel and beautiful.
It wasn't until many years later that I discovered that the root of my uselessness in this book was that I never wanted to hurt anyone, even to get beautiful women into bed. Women are as vulnerable as men, and men are as vulnerable as women.
5. The Noble Art of Seducing Women - My Foolproof Guide to Pulling Any Woman You Want by Kezia Noble
For years, men have been puzzling over what it is that women find attractive in a man.
Now, the world's leading female pick-up artist trainer, Kezia Noble, is here to unlock the mysteries of what women really want in a man.
Male pick-up artist trainer, Kezia doesn't make assumptions about what women want - she knows exactly what it is they find attractive in the opposite s*x.
In this easy-to-follow, step-by-step guide to becoming a master seducer, Kezia will show you how to:
- Understand the chemistry between the two s*xes
- Use body language to your advantage * Master the art of seduction
- Seal the deal and make sure you see a woman again
Read this book and discover that, with Kezia's techniques at your fingertips, attracting women isn't as difficult as you might think!
6. The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want by Richard La Ruina
One of the world’s top pick-up artists, Richard La Ruina went from having no women to being a true master of seduction.
Now he shows you how to do the same. So move over Mystery, and tell Neil Strauss that The Rules of the Game are about to be rewritten.
Every element of the winning pickup is right here, from discovering confidence to exuding charm, learning conversation starters to mastering body language, to much more.
And as you move from daydreaming to flirtation to passion to romance to love, The Natural will show you how it’s done.
7. Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov
This Bitch here is not in its traditional meaning but refers to a woman who has her own opinion and loves herself.
Although this book is very exaggerated in many places, depicting men as idiots and mentally retarded, in many places feels ridiculous, and its core ideas are worth learning.
First of all, don't be a too kind woman (good girl), otherwise, it will be easy to be taken for granted, and in the end, even if you compromise, you will not be able to get a stable relationship you are after. The most important thing is to put yourself first at all times.
For example, you make popcorn in the microwave, and if it gets mushy, give it to your boyfriend, and get yourself a clean one. For example, if he always asks you out at the last minute, just ignore him, you say I have arrangements, next time make an appointment earlier, let the other party know that you also have your own life, and let the other party respect your life.
Be a financially and emotionally independent person. Most men actually don't mind spending money on women, but having your own income (even if it's not a lot) will allow you to act without being judged.
Financial independence is not too difficult, but emotional independence is difficult the other person knows that you are happy with him or without him.
Don't press every step of the way, tell the other person what you want with actions instead of words. For example, if the other party refuses to make a promise, don't whisper in his ear every day, try to ignore him for a while. No one likes to be bullied.
Only when a person feels the need to change, he/she will change, so it is useless to force, it can only attract disgust.
Since the author of this book is an American, some places may not necessarily apply to our socialist national conditions with characteristics.
But I personally feel that the principle of putting oneself first is very correct, "If you don't love yourself, how can you love each other and how can you benefit your lover".
Only by allowing yourself to be a happy person first, will you have a better chance of building a happy relationship.
8. Les Liaisons dangereuses by Pierre Choderlos de Laclos
After reading this book, I feel that love is the most fragile, and money, family affection, vanity, temptation, etc. can destroy it.
It is written in the book that Marquise Multi believes that a man in love is satisfied by controlling a woman, and a woman is satisfied by satisfying a man. Be the heroine.
When Marquise Multi transformed herself into a male role, instead of achieving the so-called achievement of controlling everything to satisfy her desires, she was farther away from her original intention,
because she did not expect that everything she did would still have to be recognized by the public.
We can imagine that if everything is under her control and she spends her whole life, then she is really too tired.
In the end, she forgets whether her behavior is to satisfy herself or others, and is her so-called satisfied desire really so happy. It seems that she is so jealous of other people's true love. It seems that her existing control over others still cannot satisfy her.
The male protagonist in the book ranks at the top of the list of flirting with women in the social circle. For him, having love is a shame. Let’s not comment on his psychology for the time being.
In the end, he still lives in the eyes of others. His satisfaction is Satisfaction recognized by others. For him, the power of love is no match for vanity.
All kinds of vanity in the book, don’t lift the veil of mystery in the end, making reality look ugly.
After human beings satisfy their material needs, is this the life they have to face? This is what the author leaves for the readers to think about.
9. Diary of a Seducer by Søren Kierkegaard
This book is divided into two parts. The first part is extremely exciting. It tells how a male protagonist (a master hunter) chased a very beautiful girl he met by chance.
How to strike up a conversation with the person you like, how to create a "chance encounter", how to follow her without being discovered, how to use various interpersonal relationships to get acquainted with her, including her friends, and how to defeat her suitors, and finally Finally got her...
But he, just for the freshness of love, it would be bad if he got her, so he wanted to abandon her. Immediately plunges into the next round of "exciting" games, and this is how his life is constantly pursuing novelty and change, and it is only innocent girls who suffer.
It can be said that the first half of this book is really attractive. I think boys will be interested, but it is easy to learn bad things.
The second half is a long letter, which is written by the author in the name of a third person to the master hunter, telling him that eternal happiness lies in a long-term marriage, not in constant "hunting".
Although the writing is very reasonable, in the end, it is difficult to turn the tide. I believe most readers will not be too interested.
Therefore, you must be cautious when reading this book. You can’t learn badly without learning well. Those who don’t have enough internal strength should wait until they have rich experience before reading it. Don’t trust the author’s first half.
10. No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover
Putting your own needs first - seems easy, but is actually difficult due to factors such as psychology, culture, and upbringing.
The author uses many real cases witnessed by himself to try to clear the way for readers. The book seems geared toward men, but I feel like it's for everyone.
The author's writing skills can be seen to be relatively shallow, the structure of the whole book is a bit messy, and there are many places that repeat.
Always trying to please others, paying too much attention to other people's opinions, controlling behavior, always trying to be nice, trying to do everything right, intimacy problems, and fear.
This is a book written entirely for people like me, subverting three views, influencing A book for a lifetime, highly recommended!!!
But why do I give five stars, because I'm Mr. Nice Guy, and I have most of the symptoms?
After all, recognizing yourself is the first step to embracing change, so I feel that I have benefited a lot.
11. The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships by Neil Strauss
NO MORE GAMES. IT'S TIME FOR THE TRUTH 'Unfortunately, I am not the hero in this tale. I am the villain.' DO YOU BELIEVE IN MONOGAMY? Neil Strauss didn't.
The New York Times journalist made a name for himself advocating freedom, s*x, and opportunity as author of The Game -- with intimacy and long-term commitment taking a back seat.
That is until he met the woman who forced him to ask the questions that men and women are asking themselves every day: - Is it natural to be faithful to one person for life? - Do alternatives to monogamy lead to better relationships and greater happiness? - Can you keep passion and romance from fading over time?
Strauss set out on a quest for answers. It took him from Viagra-laden free-love orgies to s*x addiction clinics, from cutting-edge science labs to modern-day harems, and, most terrifying of all, to his own mother and his family's secrets.
What he discovered changed everything he knew about love, s*x, relationships, and, ultimately, himself. The Truth may have the same effect on you.
Neil Strauss is the author of the international bestsellers The Game, Rules of The Game, Everyone Loves You When You're Dead, and Emergency.
He is also the co-author of three New York Times bestsellers - Jenna Jameson's How to Make Love Like a Porn Star, Motley Crue's The Dirt, and Marilyn Manson's The Long Hard Road Out of Hell - as well as Dave Navarro's Don't Try This at Home, a Los Angeles Times bestseller. A writer for Rolling Stone, Strauss lives in Los Angeles.
12. The Rational Male - Positive Masculinity by Rollo Tomassi
One of the biggest takeaways for me is not to wait for s*x, and secondly, to maintain a degree of imagination, have made mistakes at both points, wasted time, appropriate mystique, and let go of the unnecessary, and build triangle models because of the Stability.
Don't get married when you have too little experience, control your birth, remember to bring it, don't forget it when you go out, and your ID card,
Work hard to do things, do business, get tired, and engage in love, love is only a part but not all.
If you read this book in despair about your relationship, I hope you stick to your original intention and don’t give up hope].
Some operations are viable, but the overall idea is a capitalized prisoner's dilemma. Maybe only desperate people will use this book, but it is easy to bring more despair, and the influence is hard to revert.
13. Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James
I really can't bear the pressure of being recommended by everyone, so I look for it. Every time I hear this book mentioned, it seems that if I haven't read the legendary Fifty Shades of Grey, I will be out.
The feeling of opening the book is like worshiping high-tech, and I hope that such a book and such a hero that can be enthusiastically sought after by European and American women will definitely give me and other developing countries a refreshing and eye-opening experience.
You can't even imagine what kind of worship and pilgrimage I was preparing to read the book,,,, However, within ten minutes of opening the book, there was no new plot, and I saw the heroine kept talking I admired how rich, handsome, deadly, cool and handsome the male protagonist is...
Up to here, I still have a sense of luck, and I keep telling myself in my heart, "Don't be empirical, good works come slowly...
"Well, leaving aside the long paragraphs of nympho descriptions of the heroine, the first half of the heroine's desire to refuse or greet still aroused people's curiosity and girlishness...
However, the plot will continue to develop in the end, and there will always be thorns. Day of broken window paper. Until the hero took the heroine to see his "entertainment room" and took out the contract.
I just want to say: Grass, Nima, isn’t this the Contract Lover and devil lover series that my sister watched in junior high school?! Speaking of which, I can't help but complain about the character set.
If you want to say that the hero is handsome, rich, talented, and knows astronomy and geography, he is proficient in all kinds of martial arts, and he has so many s*x and hobbies. It’s okay to be a little special, but can you not be so serious and pretend to be 13, brother, what is your hobby, compared with a certain compound, it is pure love!
The heroine, from the beginning to the end, is a nympho nympho nympho, and interspersed with so many inner struggles that make people look forward to something new to cheat manuscript fees!! Isn't it just a training subject, can you be more professional!!
In comparison, the professionalism and professionalism of the romance writers in E.L. James is so touching, at least it doesn’t violate harmony at all when watching it. Well, at least in the field of romance, we have surpassed Europe and the United States by 20 years!
PS: To sum up, this is a story with a plot style similar to Love You for Nine and a Half Weeks, and character interaction similar to the new version of Jane Eyre. It is said that it will be made into a movie?
14. The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
I can barely give it four stars because half of the content is nothing to read, but the other half's knowledge of women is worth watching.
The author started the discussion with a comparison of femininity and masculinity.
These two things are positive and negative, the poles of the world. Only when one pole is done well can the other pole be attracted? I know it, but I still seem to underestimate the difference between the two.
Even so, whether the author is right or not, women still have to stand up and judge. Write down a few points I remembered, and welcome girls to comment:
- 1. Women (or femininity) are always in constant change and flow and live in the moment. This means that sometimes they feel that A is good, and sometimes they feel that A is not good. It doesn't make much sense, it just reflects their current feelings. Men are completely different from this.
- 2. Men need to be belittled to be stimulated, and women need to be praised;
- 3. The most s*xual attractiveness in women is also the most frustrating to men.
- 4. Women want love communicated through energy transmission, such as touching, hugging, kissing, and so on. These are the ways they convey and express love. For men, it may be a long-term commitment, and so on.
- 5. Men pursue freedom, while women pursue fullness. Their shopping, playing around, and even s*x are all expressions of their pursuit of a fulfilling life. For them, it is better to have something to do than to have nothing to do, and to have something to do when there is nothing to do.
After finishing writing, I felt that I didn’t understand women too well?
15. The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm
Fromm fully embodies the point of "you can't talk nonsense because of people". Even though he said "not against equality between men and women", he is completely a patriarch. Some arguments about women and Kongtong make people want to roll their eyes.
But some of what he said is true. Falling in love and being in love are two completely different concepts. Love requires management and learning, understanding, and respect.
In the book, Fromm does not use difficult psychological terms, because this book is written for the public, reminding everyone to pay attention to the necessity of love for human existence.
However, as the author said, if you want to know the artistic explanation of simple love, you may be disappointed.
Here, love is not just a narrow love between men and women, nor can it be obtained by honing and improving skills. Love is the manifestation of personality as a whole. To develop the ability to love, one needs to work hard to develop one's personality and move towards constructive goals.
Fromm is a scholar who is highly concerned about modern society. In this book, Freund can't help criticizing modern Western society and the disintegration of love in Western society.
Therefore, if you are a person who cares about yourself and the real society, you might as well start with "The Art of Love" to get to know Fromm, and you may be able to find the answer that suits your own needs.
When reading this book, you can refer to Fromm's "Zen and Psychoanalysis", Martin Buber's "I and You", Marcuse's "Eros and Civilization", Rollo May's "Love and Will" and other books, which can help to understand the authors of these books and the philosophical meaning behind them more thoroughly.
Thank you for reading!