The rest of your life is short, don't think too much.
Life must have the ability to survive, the ability to make money, and the ability to self-heal. Not everyone will take care of your feelings, and life will not take into account your mood, and even more, will give you cruel blows and torment.
If you can't think about it yourself, and you add obstacles to yourself, your life will be very untidy, and your mentality will become more and more sensitive, so that your heart will become more and more blocked, and it will become a difficult disease in life. happy. Many troubles come from thinking too much and thinking too much.
We often envy children for living a simple and worry-free life, so much so that they are so obsessed with childhood life and dislike the days when they grow up.
In fact, a child's happiness often comes from nature. He doesn't know why he is crying, why he is laughing, or even realizes that he is crying or laughing. It is just an instinctive reaction.
As adults, it is impossible for us to go back to the past, and what we have to do is not to go back to the age when our minds are not open. The most important thing is to achieve the perfect state of life through learning and practice.
In one's life, if it is said that difficulties are not too difficult, it is nothing more than living a little worse than others and enjoying a little less than others. People who enjoy happiness now must have suffered more and suffered more than others in the past.
Those who are suffering now must have made some mistakes and made detours in the past. What kind of life a person can live is the product of his own behavior. He can't blame others, and he doesn't have to complain about anything. The law of the world is so simple, just walk your own way, it is useless to think too much.
15 Best Self-Help Books for Anxiety & Overthinking
If people want to make life easier, they can drive away all troubles without being sad, depressed, and decadent. Only by cheerfully accepting everything that you have encountered and accepting the gift of life to you, can you face up to the difficulties and solve them.
Getting up while falling down is the norm in life. If you don't care about other people's eyes, pat the dust on your body, and go forward with all your energy, nothing will hold you back. If you feel good about yourself, don't expect others to feel good.
Here we recommend the 16 Best Self-Help books for Anxiety & Overthinking.
1. The Worry Trick
The Worry Trick by David A. Carbonell PhD
Are you truly in danger or has your brain simply "tricked" you into thinking you are? In The Worry Trick, psychologist and anxiety expert David Carbonell shows how anxiety hijacks the brain and offers effective techniques to help you break the cycle of worry, once and for all.
Anxiety is a powerful force. It makes us question ourselves and our decisions, causes us to worry about the future, and fills our days with dread and emotional turbulence. Based on acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), this book is designed to help you break the cycle of worry.
Worry convinces us there's danger, and then tricks us into getting into the fight, flight, or freeze mode—even when there is no danger. The techniques in this book, rather than encouraging you to avoid or try to resist anxiety, shows you how to see the trick that underlies your anxious thoughts, and how avoidance can backfire and make anxiety worse.
If you’re ready to start observing your anxious feelings with distance and clarity—rather than getting tricked once again—this book will show you how.
2. Clear Your Mind
Clear Your Mind by Steven Schuster
Feel like a hamster on a wheel, endlessly overwhelmed by your own thoughts and noisy brain? Do you lack focus on what’s important and feel daily anxiety? If you want clarity and peace of mind, this book is for you.
All of us deal with an excessive amount of expectations surrounding us about what to do with our lives: become richer, lose weight, be a better person, think more positively, more… We have so many expectations, obligations, and duties and not enough energy to keep up with them. But do we really?
Your greatest barrier to a better life is your own mind. The solution you’re seeking is right in front of you. Clear Your Mind will help you to understand your thoughts, organize them and attach the appropriate action to them. Mental clarity equals peace of mind.
The goal of this book is simple: free your mind from destructive thoughts, help you adopt new, constructive habits, and release you from tension. Your mind becomes more creative once released from burdens.
This book will tell you:
- How can you stop overthinking
- How to let go of others’ expectations (and your own)
- The main causes of mental clutter
- How to stop talking and start acting
- How to rephrase your negative thoughts Clarity of mind releases you from stress and anxiety.
- Understand how your brain works – biologically and psychologically
- Make better decisions by knowing what you actually want
- Learn the benefits of top-down thinking
- How to release mental energy by minimizing social media involvement
What if I told you all the mental clarity and cognitive potential you longed for to know how to improve your life resided in you all along like a pearl waiting to be discovered?
Clear Your Mind is a manual for those who feel defeated, who resigned long ago, a manifesto for true life change by unleashing your mental genius. Life isn’t as complicated as we are made to think, and it is time for you to discover why.
3. The Overthinker’s Guide to Love
The Overthinker’s Guide to Love by Kristen Ruth Smith
The Overthinker's Guide to Love offers hard-won insight turned into straightforward practices for anyone seeking a satisfying partnership in an increasingly complex landscape of relationship and sexuality.
Like so many millennials, Kristen assumed dating, marriage, and sex would come naturally someday, but nearing thirty and still without a clear sexual compass, she leans on her curiosity and intellect to think her way into partnership by turning her life into a Love Laboratory, candidly offering up her observations through a series of earnest, comical, and intimate real-life experiments that challenge the ways we define the world of relationship, commitment, intimacy, and love.
Complete with data analysis and experiments readers can run at home, her combination of sincere storytelling and teaching reminds us that discovering who we are in love should be playful, fun, and always up for investigation.
4. Unf#ck Your Brain
Unf#ck Your Brain by Faith G. Harper, Ph.D. LPC-S ACS ACN
A no-nonsense and helpful guide on how to cope with a slew of mental-health issues that are hellbent on ruining the lives of millions of people worldwide.
Our brains do their best to help us out, but every so often they can be real assholes―having meltdowns, getting addicted to things, or shutting down completely at the worst possible moments. Your brain knows it’s not good to do these things, but it can’t help it sometimes―especially if it’s obsessing about trauma it can’t overcome. That’s where this life-changing book comes in.
With humor, patience, science, and lots of good-ole swearing, Dr. Faith explains what’s going on in your skull, and talks you through the process of retraining your brain to respond appropriately to the non-emergencies of everyday life, and to deal effectively with old, or newly acquired, traumas (particularly post-traumatic stress disorder).
This is by far the most fu*k and sh*t book I've read. (Of course, I suspect the same is true of several other books in the same series by the author) But they are still number one on Amazon's bestseller list. The content is easy to understand and the style is purely colloquial. I have read a lot of psychology books and nothing new to me. But it should still be useful for readers with few basics.
5. Reclaim Your Brain
Reclaim Your Brain by Joseph A. Annibali, M.D.
A prescriptive guide to restoring cognitive calm, based on Amen Clinics chief psychiatrist Dr. Joseph Annibali’s three decades of treating patients who suffer from overloaded, overstimulated brains.
Dr. Joseph Annibali has treated thousands of people with overloaded, overstimulated brains. Some people describe their brain as being “in chaos”; others feel that their brain is “on fire.”
But whether they are ultimately diagnosed with anxiety, disabling OCD, depression, bipolar disorder, or even substance abuse, the underlying problem is a Too-Busy Brain, a great irritant that interferes with attention, concentration, focus, and mood, and often much more. It may even be a sign of undetected damage to either the brain or the body itself.
But through practical strategies, understandable explanations, and prescriptive mind-management techniques, Dr. Annibali will help readers finally reclaim their brains and get back in control of their lives.
6. The Body Keeps The Score
The Body Keeps The Score by Dr. van der Kolk
It took me more than two weeks to finally read this book (the content is not obscure, but it is a lot of information, and there are many technical terms of brain science, which I have difficulty understanding).
Combined with the anxiety training for teenagers organized by the Oriental Hospital in mid-July and the follow-up of the Jingwei Center in early August, this summer vacation enlightened my understanding of the integration of medicine and education.
Dialogue work and non-verbal communication of assessment may bring about development and changes from the perspective of brain science; on the other hand, it begins to understand the responsibilities and boundaries of a school psychologist from a physiological point of view, as well as psychiatrists and psychologists to school mental health staff. expectations.
While Dr. Van der Cock has expressed concern about whether his years of research efforts will bring about real-world change (for example, his years of work to add "developmental trauma disorder" to DSM-5 have so far been unsuccessful), the book ends with "symptoms." is a source of strength” and that “social change comes from traumatic experiences” remains heartening.
I look forward to more medical education and related colleagues reading this book, and an open attitude towards each other will bring the possibility of deep integration.
It is basically a must-read in the field of trauma. The theoretical and practical parts are very comprehensive and well-understood, and the clinical experience shared by the author is also very interesting.
I'm very interested in EMDR, neurofeedback, and internal family therapies, although they feel like they're all amazing -- but EMDR has shown very strong evidence in the literature,
the latter two are... Of course, the book also discusses why the latter two are limited evidence. In short, I feel that after reading it, I can only accept the problem from the perspective of developmental trauma.
Finally, I would like to say that brain science and neuroscience are really amazing, and we will wait and see more new developments!
The recommended reading after the book feels great, learn slowly and read slowly.
7. My Grandmother's Hands
My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem
In this groundbreaking book, therapist Resmaa Menakem examines the damage caused by racism in America from the perspective of trauma and body-centered psychology.
The body is where our instincts reside and where we fight, flee, or freeze, and it endures the trauma inflicted by the ills that plague society. Menakem argues this destruction will continue until Americans learn to heal the generational anguish of white supremacy, which is deeply embedded in all our bodies. Our collective agony doesn't just affect African Americans. White Americans suffer their own secondary trauma as well. So do blue Americans—our police.
My Grandmother's Hands is a call to action for all of us to recognize that racism is not only about the head, but about the body, and introduces an alternative view of what we can do to grow beyond our entrenched racialized divide.
- Paves the way for a new, body-centered understanding of white supremacy—how it is literally in our blood and our nervous system.
- Offers a step-by-step healing process based on the latest neuroscience and somatic healing methods, in addition to incisive social commentary.
Resmaa Menakem, MSW, LICSW, SEP, is a leading voice in today’s conversation on racialized trauma and the creator of Cultural Somatics, which utilizes the body and its natural resilience as mechanisms for growth.
As a therapist and the founder of Justice Leadership Solutions, a leadership consulting firm, Resmaa dedicates his expertise to coaching leaders through civil unrest, organizational change, and community building.
8. Brain Food: How to Eat Smart and Sharpen Your Mind
Brain Food: How to Eat Smart and Sharpen Your Mind by Lisa Mosconi
How to eat for maximum brain power and health from an expert in both neuroscience and nutrition.
Like our bodies, our brains have very specific food requirements. And in this eye-opening book from an author who is both a neuroscientist and a certified integrative nutritionist, we learn what should be on our menu.
Dr. Lisa Mosconi, whose research spans an extraordinary range of specialties including brain science, the microbiome, and nutritional genomics, notes that the dietary needs of the brain are substantially different from those of the other organs, yet few of us have any idea what they might be.
Her innovative approach to cognitive health incorporates concepts that most doctors have yet to learn. Busting through advice based on pseudoscience, Dr. Mosconi provides recommendations for a complete food plan, while calling out noteworthy surprises, including why that paleo diet you are following may not be ideal, why avoiding gluten may be a terrible mistake, and how simply getting enough water can dramatically improve alertness.
Including comprehensive lists of what to eat and what to avoid, a detailed quiz that will tell you where you are on the brain health spectrum, and 24 mouth-watering brain-boosting recipes that grow out of Dr. Mosconi's own childhood in Italy, Brain Food gives us the ultimate plan for a healthy brain.
Brain Food will appeal to anyone looking to improve memory, prevent cognitive decline, eliminate brain fog, lift depression, or just sharpen their edge.
9. Just Eat It
Just Eat It by Laura Thomas
Just Eat It isn't just a book. It's part of a movement to give women power and control over their bodies. To free us from restrictive dieting, disordered eating, and punishing exercise. To reject the guilt and anxiety associated with eating and, ultimately, to help us feel good about ourselves.
"Truly life-changing" Dolly Alderton, bestselling author of Everything I Know About Love
This anti-diet guide from registered nutritionist Laura Thomas Ph.D. can help you sort out your attitude toward food and ditch punishing exercise routines. As a qualified practitioner of Intuitive Eating - a method that helps followers tune in to innate hunger and fullness cues - Thomas gives you the freedom to enjoy food on your own terms.
There are no rules: only simple, practical tools and exercises including mindfulness techniques to help you recognize physiological and emotional hunger, sample conversations with friends and colleagues, and magazine and blog critiques that call out diet culture.
So, have you ever been on a diet? Spent time worrying that you looked fat when you could have been doing something useful? Compared the size of your waistline to someone else's? Felt guilt, actual guilt, about the serious crime of . . . eating a doughnut? You're not alone. Just Eat It gives you everything you need to develop a more trusting, healthy relationship with food and your body.
10. Rewire: Change Your Brain
Rewire: Change Your Brain by Richard O'Connor
Richard O’Connor’s bestselling book Undoing Depression has become a touchstone in the field, helping thousands of therapists and patients overcome depressive patterns.
In Rewire, O’Connor expands those ideas, showing how we actually have two brains—a conscious deliberate self and an automatic self that makes most of our decisions—and how we can train the latter to ignore distractions, withstand temptations, and interrupt reflexive, self-sabotaging responses.
Rewire gives readers a road–map to overcoming the most common self-destructive habits, including procrastination, excessive worrying, internet addiction, overeating, risk-taking, and self-medication, among others.
By learning valuable skills and habits—including mindfulness, self-control, confronting fear, and freeing yourself from mindless guilt—we can open ourselves to vastly more successful, productive, and happy lives.
11. Stop Overthinking
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Stop Overthinking: 23 Techniques to Relieve Stress, Stop Negative Spirals, Declutter Your Mind, and Focus on the Present by Nick Trenton
Stop Overthinking is a book that understands what you've been through, the exhausting situation you've put yourself into, and how you lose your mind in the trap of anxiety and stress.
Acclaimed author Nick Trenton will walk you through the obstacles with detailed and proven techniques to help you rewire your brain, control your thoughts, and change your mental habits.
What's more, the book will provide you scientific approaches to completely change the way you think and feel about yourself by ending vicious thought patterns.
Stop agonizing over the past and trying to predict the future.
Nick Trenton grew up in rural Illinois and is quite literally a farm boy. His best friend growing up was his trusty companion Leonard the dachshund. RIP Leonard. Eventually, he made it off the farm and obtained a BS in Economics, followed by an MA in Behavioral Psychology.
Powerful ways to stop ruminating and dwelling on negative thoughts.
- How to be aware of your negative spiral triggers
- Identify and recognize your inner anxieties
- How to keep the focus on relaxation and action
- Proven methods to overcome stress attacks
- Learn to declutter your mind and find focus
Unleash your unlimited potential and start living.
12. A Manual for Living
A Manual for Living by Epictetus
The essence of perennial Stoic wisdom in aphorisms of stunning insight and simplicity. The West's first and best little instruction book offers thoroughly contemporary and pragmatic reflections on how best to live with serenity and joy.
Out of all existing things some are in our power some are not; exercise what’s in our power otherwise, you will be frustrated. What disturbs your mind is not events but your judgments on events. Behave in life as you would at a banquet.
13. Stillness Speaks
Stillness Speaks by Eckhart Tolle
In Stillness Speaks, best-selling author Eckhart Tolle illuminates the fundamental elements of his teaching, addressing the needs of the modern seeker by drawing from all spiritual traditions.
At the core of the book is what the author calls "the state of presence," a living in the "now" that is both intensely inspirational and practical. When the pressures of future and past thinking disappear, fear and frustration also vanish, conquered by the moment.
Stillness Speaks takes the form of 200 individual entries, organized into 10 topic clusters that range from "Beyond the Thinking Mind" to "Suffering and the End of Suffering." The entries are concise and complete in themselves, but, read together, take on a transformative power.
14. The Untethered Soul
The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer
I read this book from "the surrender experiment". During the reading process, I felt that many of the views in the book are very reasonable and practical. During the reading process, I can really experience my own development and development in my daily life. peaceful.
The summary is as follows, and I hope to share it with you:
Recognizing the separation of the ego from the self-experience, the ego is the master experiencer, and all feelings are the existence of an object. Establishing this witness' subject consciousness and thinking framework can completely change our understanding of life.
Life is a flow of energy, trying to feel this flow of energy in itself. If you are trapped by experience, you will unconsciously try to protect yourself against this flow of energy; at this time you will close your heart, then these energies will not flow smoothly but will stagnate in your heart and become a knot. And once you have a knot, you will do everything possible to avoid touching it, so you will no longer be free.
Practice exercises to keep an open mind so that energy can flow continuously; no one is perfect, when the knot formed by past experience is touched again, it will inevitably cause pain, try to stop and relax by yourself, and let the energy flow naturally through the body. Only in this way can you truly be freed from your ego cage and gain true freedom.
When you feel the anxiety and fear caused by external things, it means that they have touched your inner limit, which is the inner wall of self-imposed limits. At this time, don't avoid it, and bravely extend outwards, so that you can gain a more open inner world.
Choose unconditional happiness, happiness is an inner choice and should not be based on any external conditions. Accept anything that has happened, don't resist external things or your own feelings, avoid all kinds of extremes, and seek to achieve a state of inner balance, so that the energy can deal with various things more efficiently.
Letting things take their course doesn't mean you don't deal with what's happening, accept what's happening, and let any experience pass through your body so that you're not dealing with the emotion or the experience, but with the thing itself.
15. Women Who Think Too Much
Women Who Think Too Much: How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life by Susan Nolen-Hoeksema
It's no surprise that our fast-paced, overly self-analytical culture is pushing many people―especially women―to spend countless hours thinking about negative ideas, feelings, and experiences.
Renowned psychologist Dr. Susan Nolen-Hoeksema calls this overthinking, and her groundbreaking research shows that an increasing number of women―more than half of those in her extensive study―are doing it too much and too often, leading to sadness, anxiety, and depression.
She challenges the assumption―heralded by so many pop psychology pundits of the last several decades―that constantly expressing and analyzing our emotions is a good thing.
In Women Who Think Too Much, Nolen-Hoeksema shows us what causes so many women to be overthinkers and provides concrete strategies that can be used to escape these negative thoughts, move to higher ground, and live more productively. Women Who Think Too Much will change lives and is destined to become a self-help classic.
16. Embrace the Chaos
Embrace the Chaos: How India Taught Me to Stop Overthinking and Start Living by Bob Miglani
In this inspiring book, Miglani shares the experiences and encounters that helped him finally get it.
- What happens when you find yourself in an Indian village with no money and a plane to catch?
- How could an educated urban woman agree to a marriage after two dates?
- What keeps a rural health worker motivated despite the enormous need and such limited ability to help?
- What does trying to catch an insanely overcrowded bus teach you about perfection?
Embracing the chaos, Miglani found, “leads us down paths we never would have walked on...It brings out strengths we never knew existed inside of us.”
Disadvantages you should know about overthinking
Once said, "The reason why you are troubled is that you study too little and think too much"!
People who think too much are easy to worry, complicate things, think wildly, be anxious, and think too complicated about people and things in life and work.
Why do many people around us say to us: Don’t think too much, it’s not good to think too much, you just think too much and find trouble for yourself? Mainly because thinking too much really has a lot of downsides.
1. People who think too much are easy to grow old
The pressure that everyone's brain and body can withstand is limited. If we oppress ourselves for a long time, force ourselves to think about something that has not happened or has happened, and invisibly expand the influence of things, letting ourselves Indirectly be in an uneasy and worrying situation not only makes us feel physically and mentally exhausted, but our body also changes accordingly.
If we don’t eat well, or sleep well, we are afraid to do anything, we are always afraid of making mistakes, we are worried that we will be punished, and we are worried that we will be ridiculed and looked down upon by others. When our body and mind are in this state for a long time, we will age faster than normal.
When I was in college, I would sometimes go to a close classmate's house to play. That girl also has an older brother, whom I hadn't seen before.
Later, one weekend, she asked our roommates to play together. One of the girls we were traveling with was a relative of my friend's house. We bought some fruit snacks and hot pot ingredients and prepared to go to her house to cook the hot pot.
Coincidentally, my classmate's brother also came back, because the university is a few hours' drive away from home, so he just came back to see his family on the weekend.
"Brother, are you lost in love, why are you so old"!
As soon as we entered the door, this girl and the roommate who was their relative said. Her brother is only in his twenties, but he looks tired, unshaven, and lackluster, because of our presence, her brother didn't say much.
Later, the roommate said that it was her brother who broke up not long ago, and it was his girlfriend who mentioned it. It was a bit sudden, and the brother couldn't accept it, and then his girlfriend was with another boy not long ago.
My brother was wondering if they had been together a long time ago. He was deceived and thought about it every day. He felt that he was too tired, so he went home to change his mood.
2. People who think too much are tired of living
When I was in college, I was afraid that my classmates would laugh at me. I never dared to speak my thoughts aloud. Many times, I could ask the teacher questions, but I just didn’t dare to stand up, because I was afraid that my answer was not good enough, and I was afraid of the teacher’s criticism.
I remember one time, in a modern literature class, the teacher asked about the rhetorical technique of a sentence. It was actually very simple. It was a thimble. Maybe everyone was not very interested that morning or they just didn’t wake up, no one rushed to answer, and no one raised their hands. Reply.
I quietly said the answer to my deskmate, and then my deskmate raised his hand to answer.
The teacher said it was very good, and then the tablemate said that it was my tablemate who told me. At that time, the teacher of the literature class said, "Tell you the tablemate, be bold and say whatever you want, I won't eat her." Then our class classmates burst into laughter.
Since then, I have gradually become bolder, no longer think so much, and no longer look forward and backward, I found that I am not so tired!
In the past, what my classmates or people around me said to me, I would always think over and over again, what did he mean, did he not like it, did I say something wrong, cared too much about the eyes and opinions of others, and always stood From their point of view, they think too much about themselves and think too little for themselves. This is very tiring. Obviously, I should not bear these pains.
3. People who think too much are easy to lose
Sometimes, whether it's your good friends or family members, who say a word, or a look and a move, maybe they just mean well, or they don't have the kind of meaning you think, but you just have to think more and repeatedly suspect them. Mind.
The human heart is the most incapable of being tested and tested. Once or twice, they may not feel that there is anything. However, once the number of times is too many, people will be annoyed and will think, they may think, do you not want to be friends with them.
Gradually, you will go further and further.
People who think too much are easy to lose, easy to lose true friends, and easy to lose some opportunities.
I hope we can all be people who don't think too much and dare to be ourselves!
Find yourself thinking too much all the time?
In life, some manifestations, although they are not a disease, may cause people no less trouble than a "disease".
Your problem is reading too little and thinking too much.
Sensitivity, paranoia, and overthinking often bring endless troubles to a person, and in many cases, they will also bring certain harm to an intimate relationship.
In the book "The Highly Sensitive Person", Psychology Ilse Sander clearly tells us that high sensitivity is a rare ability, and it is likely to become a unique advantage in future social competition.
But why are many sensitive people still troubled by "thinking too much"?
I think too much but lack enough knowledge to manage these divergent thoughts in my mind, and a series of troubles come from it:
- Emotional overload;
- prone to negative beliefs, regrets about the past, and anxiety about the future;
- more social anxiety, fear of being looked down upon by others;
- Think too much, do too little, and act weak.
Although thinking too much is not a regular mental illness, in order to study this pervasive personality trait, some people refer to people who habitually think too much as overthinkers.
Some studies have pointed out that the trait of overthinking is closely related to mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety.
Thinking about the dangers of too much
In the past, I was harassed by a male boss in the company. Later, it was passed on, and in the mouth of my colleague, it became me to seduce him for promotion. Although I have changed jobs now, I still feel that my colleagues are talking about me behind my back.
Psychologist Ashley Carroll argues that when we pay too much attention to an event, it rolls over into one giant negative belief.
People who think too much are more likely to suffer from insomnia, and lack of adequate sleep is a very important reason for negative emotions.
Overthinking can also cause physical discomforts, such as headaches, muscle aches, and gastrointestinal problems.
At the same time, a person who thinks too much is likely to have too many negative thoughts in intimate relationships and other interpersonal relationships, and many of these thoughts may be unfounded.
Scholars believe there is a link between overthinking and a person's traumatic experience.
Thinking too much is actually a psychological defense mechanism. It is a way people use to relieve their inner pain. They use overthinking to comfort themselves, and they have done enough to face some potential "dangers". get ready.
Five Signs of Overthinking
I have been troubled by insomnia for a long time. I don't know why, but when I lie down on the bed, my emotions can easily become particularly intense. Either remember what I said during the day and regret it, or I am proud of the little things I did. After calming down, it's actually a little bit of a fart.
Overthinking is a very common trouble in life, and it appears from time to time in many people's lives.
If the following 5 behaviors occur frequently in your life, it means that you are likely to be an overthinker.
1. Difficulty falling asleep, hard to stop thoughts that keep repeating in your mind
Before going to bed, the brain will become very active, and suddenly remember some details in life, start to think over and over again, may regret some of your actions, or maybe be inexplicably proud of some things, have inexplicable excitement, can not sleep.
2. There are often embarrassing moments in your mind when you are embarrassed
There may be some embarrassing things in everyone's life. I often fall into the memories of these things, doubt my own value, and have a withdrawal mentality for future planning.
3. Often feel that there is something in other people's words
I often feel that others are hinting at me, especially that there are "needles" hidden in many words.
4. Often regret what you said or didn’t say
Often regrets things they did or didn't do, and what they said or didn't say.
5. Regret about the past and worry about the future
I always regret and worry, so I rarely take action and change.
How to Stop Overthinking
It is not easy to develop the habit of reading. As soon as I pick up the book, I can't help but want to brush my phone. After persisting for a while, I slowly overcame my inertia.
Reading too little is actually the reason why a person thinks too much.
Without rational self-management, you will continue to swim in the fantasy of self, and finally, get lost in this long ocean of consciousness.
To change the habit of overthinking, reading more books is a good solution.
But in this era of information explosion, what is worth reading has become a matter of decision-making.
- history books
- personal growth
- mind novel
These books are all helpful for self-development.
Reading history allows us to see ourselves more holistically, instead of getting caught up in partial thinking;
The growth experience of successful people allows us to objectively examine human nature;
Books on personal growth allow us to find theoretical guidance for improving ourselves in many ways;
Spiritual novels allow us to immerse ourselves in these life stories and generate new experiences.
4 Ways to Stop Your Overthinking
In addition to reading, psychologists also provide the following ways to get us out of the trouble of overthinking.
1. Be aware of your overthinking
"I didn't think too much about it."
For many people who think too much, realizing that they think too much is not an easy thing to do.
Because our feelings are very real to ourselves, even if they are some of our own unfounded reasoning.
In fact, you can use your emotions as an important indicator for identifying overthinking states.
Anxiety or overexcitement may be the product of overthinking. Record these situations and build an "overthinking file" of your own. When this situation recurs, it can be identified more quickly.
2. Cultivate growth-oriented interests
When a person's inner emotions are unable to find an object to project, they are likely to start thinking wildly.
How to stop this kind of overthinking is a good way to do something that interests you, and let your inner fluctuations get a certain release in these things.
Painting, reading, writing, gardening, calligraphy, watching movies, etc., are all interests with growth characteristics, which can not only bring fun but also grow.
Short-term video screens, excessive gaming, gambling, etc., although these kinds of addictive things can be enjoyed in a timely manner, it does not have a certain growth quality, they will only make people addicted, and cannot really be freed from the pit of overthinking.
3. Set an alarm for your "thinking"
Telling a person not to think too much is often a counterproductive thing.
When you suppress your thoughts, the thoughts tend to be stronger, and psychologists have also used the white bear experiment to confirm this point of view.
Psychologists asked people not to think about a white bear, and those who were told not to think about a white bear were the most likely to think of a white bear after the experiment.
But that doesn't mean indulging in thoughts is an effective solution.
Set yourself an alarm clock of 5 minutes to allow enough time for these thoughts to be released, then spend 10 minutes writing down your worries and concerns, and finally crumple or tear up the paper and throw it in the trash.
It's an effective "ritual" to let go of those heavy thoughts and move on.
4. Accept yourself in the moment
Overthinking is often a manifestation of not being able to live in the moment.
I am always thinking about my past and future, but I forget that grasping the present is the only thing everyone can do.
We are always thinking about how we can become better people, but we forget that no matter the moment, we are unique in this world.
Eckhart Tory, the author of The Power of Now, says that an important way to bring a person back from the past and future back to the present is to get back to how your body feels.
Focus on your breathing and feel how your head, chest, hands, and feet feel.
This method allows us to get out of the labyrinth of thinking, to have a real sense of experience with ourselves, and to become a feeler rather than a thinker.
Conclusion of Best Self-Help Books for Anxiety & Overthinking
Overthinking is something that many people experience in their lives.
The past cannot be changed, the future is unpredictable, and only the present can be grasped.
Psychologists tell us through research that high sensitivity is a natural advantage of a person, but if we do not take advantage of it, it will become a problem in life.
If you are experiencing the trouble of thinking too much, then just like Mr. Yang Jiang suggested, read more and read good books.
Free yourself from the thoughts of the past and the future, and rediscover the strength and courage to live in the present.